Kind of irritated

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Britney

So i don’t want to sounds like a jerk i just need to get this out. My husband and i have been married for 4 years and we have a 2 year old (turned 2 on dec 23). I always try and get a few gifts that are from our daughter (usually Shutterfly gifts or something with pictures of them) and then i got him stuff from me as well. Right before thanksgiving i sold my camera and bought a new one and i know that was my “Christmas present” from my husband but other than that i got a stocking full of candy (that he got when we stopped at target last night because he realized otherwise i would have had nothing at all) i really want to cry because yes, i May have gotten a camera a month ago, but he got a brand new truck, new saw, and a bunch of other random tools. I know many of you will say just talk to him, and yes, i will. Right now I’m just upset. I listened to everything that he hinted at and determined what he would actually use and what wouldn’t be worth getting and he didn’t seem to listen to the one thing (besides the camera) that i would have liked. I will talk to him, im just overly tired and extremely emotional right now.

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Pe

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Girl it’s ok to be disappointed. its not about the presents it’s about the lack of thoughtfulness. I used to get the same way. I would go all out for hubby, put a lot of time and effort into surprises for him. But when it was an occasion (birthday, anniversary, etc...) that he’s supposed to do something it felt like getting me something or planning something was an after thought and he just kinda threw stuff together. It made me feel less important to him and that he didn’t care about “wowing” me anymore. It hurt. Finally had to have a heart to heart with him about it. And he admitted that he knew he was dropping the ball but he said it seemed like I didn’t care too much (because I was always trying to hide my disappointment, didn’t want to be petty). It has been much better since our talk. Good luck hun

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Britney • Dec 25, 2017
Thanks for the encouragement! I’m hoping the next holiday (after our talk) things will be better and he will seem to care a little more. For now I’ll sit wide awake on the couch until he gets up and we can go visit his family with me being completely exhausted. 😳 yay! 😬

Au

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I’m so sorry. I know the feeling. 😘

Br

Britney • Dec 25, 2017
Thank you. Hopefully it all worked/works out for you, too

Ho

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Aww. I know the feeling. Boys are dumb!! My SO got me bed sheets for my birthday one year. And a camping chair for Christmas one time 🙄It’s hard to comprehend, when you’re that type of person that listens to what he wants, and that feeling isn’t reciprocated. I’m the same - every present I get is super thoughtful and I put a lot of time and thought into them. And it’s a bit of a blow when u don’t get the same back. But that’s because he’s not you. You know?Have u heard of the 5 love languages? How you may recognise love as words of affirmation, and gifts. But just because u want to receive love that way, doesn’t mean u have to give it that way.. boys struggle with that. He might recognise love as acts of service, or affection. So he doesn’t see the fuss in gifts. If that makes sense? (The point of that is to learn how to give love in the way ur partner recognises it)Moral of the story - boys are dumb. Talk to him. Buy him the 5 love languages book. And spend alllll next year dropping wahaayyyyyy more less subtle hints. Haha. Hope ur okay xx