Hi all , I am a sexual assault survivor and I am super into BDSM. I know it does not make any sense, I do not understand it, but I am entirely submissive. I have been in a relationship just over a year and I need to spice up the bedroom because it has been very vanilla. I want him to be more dominant and aggressive (given my history I don't know why). He is afraid of hurting me or making me re-live my past trauma. I have come to terms with what happened and deal with it daily. I assure him that nothing will affect me that way, but he is still hesitant. is there anything to help?