Resenting husband

Had my baby on Dec 8 via cesarean. Spent 8 days in the NICU. I am 31 yrs old, this is my second baby but first with new hubby (married Oct 2016). I suffered from PP with my first born back in 2010. I have anxiety and depression but haven't started my meds again since becoming pregnant in April. Anyways...Im the breadwinner in the family, active duty military officer, I'm in grad school, I pay all the bills, clean the house, and take care of my 7 yr old and my new daughter night and day. Hubs is back at work and I know he needs down time when he gets home. But SO DO I. He's very self-centered...eats dinner first without caring if I eat, watches his sports and his shows while I'm still working on the baby in the bedroom, etc etc. Anywho...ive had no time to myself, still haven't finished last semesters finals for grad school, I want to eat, I want to BREATHE...and I'm sorry but it's like MY life's completely upside down and his hasn't changed at all. He still plays video games all night (he's 33 yrs old for fucks sake) while I cry in the bedroom bc I want to eat or do schoolwork or clean up or watch tv or something. I'm starting to hate my husband...my best friend...i hate him. why is my life fucked when it's OUR baby? N yes, I have told him all of this in tears and nothing changes...i still hate him. is anyone else going through this? I love my daughter so much but I'm so stressed and so lonely. I have to do school so I can keep paying for my family... so they can continue to put me and my needs last. plz help...im expected to do everything for everyone but nobody cares about me...n I'm not one to throw a pity party. I'm just so lost and upset.