My husband is quitting smoking today. I really want to help him stick it out this time. He’s tried a few times in the 5 years we’ve been together. It’s been a lot of work being more transparent as he used to make up excuses to go outside and hide it from me, and I’ve had to try to not be a bitch to him about it.

I asked him what he wants me to do if he starts to give up and he said to slap him. He says he wants to quit so I truly hope he isn’t doing it for me!

The last time he tried quitting, a week in his grandma fell ill and he asked me if he could start again for just a few days... well that obviously was a horrible idea and a shitty position to put me in. I’ve tried to avoid nagging him to try again and instead just tell him he has my love and support when he does.

That day is here and I’m so nervous about him being bitchy and the pressure it will put on me. And I can’t complain because I know what he is going through is way worse.

Anyway any advice on how to be supportive and keep my own cool as he gets grumpier would be appreciated!