Why is it bad

I don’t get when people ask u if u tried to get pregnant or not planned like does it matter? Then when u say it was planned they see u a whole different way why is it so bad getting pregnant I don’t get it!!! So since I can’t tell my husband or anyone I wanted to let it out here because everyday just make me cry puts me down so i have a 2 year old and I’m 16 weeks pregnant married our own place yes we are struggling financially but that’s how every year during holidays it is but my mom is just so rude saying she feels bad for my kids too have poor parents she feels like taking them away from me she would call social services she said I should get my tubes tied because my husband and I arnt meant too have kids or more kids or that I better get on birth control I know if I tell my husband she said all that stuff he would be upset and pissed but I wouldn’t do any of that stuff without him knowing and I’m not going to do those things because someone tells me to do them what do u guys think 😞😔