Is anyone this bad??

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My DH and I have been TTC for over 5 years now. I'm fighting PCOS, endo, PID and insulin resistance. I started all of my tests about two years ago and finally in Nov 13 I had a lap procedure which confirmed all of my issues. To add to the fire I'm not at a healthy weight.. I have about 5kgs to lose and I was a smoker. This month I changed to another specialist to proceed with IVF. IVF for us was a last resort.. Going into the appointment I felt a little sad that it had come to this and I thought oh well, atleast we can have a baby now, who cares about money I just want a baby.. I was wrong ? the specialist cut straight to the point and said I would need my tubes removed because tey are so damaged they cause a bad enviornment for the transferred embryo and it would most Likely fail. Not only that, it would cost me $8000 for the procedure and then a further $8000 for the IVF.  If I have my tubes removed there will be no chance that I will ever fall naturally (miracles happen) and would have to depend on the LOW chance of success with IVF. So I have booked back in with my original specialist to see what she says.. In the meantime I have been started on Clomid to see what the reaction is.. My poor DH has very good sperm quality and I think my eggs are ok. I'm so lost, I just want someone to tell me what to do.

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I'm so sorry, what a lot to take in. While I don't have all of your issues, our plan is also for IVF if IUI doesn't work in the next couple of cycles. It's very hard to hear there is no other hope than IVF and I was sad for the next few days after hearing this. Especially when everyone around you is getting pregnant at the drop of a hat. 
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​Why do you say that the chances of IVF are low? Did the doctor tell you that? Because the up side to all of this is if you do go ahead with the procedures and get pregnant, you will have a beautiful baby in the end and it won't matter to you how you got him or her.
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​I wish you the best and hope you find the right doctor and right plan for you! Good luck! 
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I have no experience with any of this and I am so sorry your journey is so difficult. But I would definitely seek further medical advice, having your tubes removed sounds very invasive and potentially unnecessary ?

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I would see maybe a third specialiste.... For me it doesn't make sense that you should have to remove your tubes even when your RE says you have to have IVF!... It's a hard journey for you. But there is still a chance! Good luck to you!

Is anyone this bad??

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