Well i got with my bf on the 31 so i started this year taken( hes my first bf) im 20. But incomes the guy who i had been pining for cried for felt something passionate and comfortable and confident with and turns my world upside down. Lets call him (J). So me and J have a history of laughter and just overall very very good vibes and the sex was pretty fucken awesome. We stopped talking for a good while( he ended up having an excuse bleh bleh bleh) and then he suddenly comes in my life once again the feelings are all still there, but there is also my first bf who i care for and dont want to hurt. And here i am still pining for the guy who leaves me and then theres the guy who I want to stay loyal to and care for. I mean not much of a decision was made from my part as J told me hes sorry and again goes away but why do i feel so sad with him leaving. I care about my bf i do and i wouldnt do anything to hurt him but J .. J confused my feelings for my bf, J made me question things that me and my bf havent even had a lot of time to talk about or anything. J ended things with me out of respect but Im really hurt he ended things and i miss him already. Can you gals give me advice i care about my bf alot weve been like friends for 3 months where the feelings started to grow but J comes in and makes me question everything.