My 12 year old got his GF pregnant

I want to start by saying that we are a middle class family, religious and educated. Our oldest son is a sophomore in college and our other kids are involved in UIL and athletics. Today I️ received the shock of my life as my son’s 13 year old girlfriend had her sisters call me to tell me she is pregnant. He is only 12. My son is a little boy who plays football, jumps on the trampoline, cries when he gets in trouble. In other words, still a kid. They had sex one time and we had no idea they were active. Her family says she will keep the baby. The mom is being ridiculous saying he has to quit school and get a job!! I am 6 months pregnant myself right now and have no idea what to do. Please help!

Updated: To the person that says education, class, religion is irrelevant, I agree and disagree. Yes, bad situations can happen to anyone, but what I’m trying to say is that we aren’t the type of parents that let our kids run around doing whatever and not involved with them. Hence, the shock and hurt feelings. I talked to him and they had sex one Saturday afternoon when he had told us he was going to go play basketball with friends. He rode his bike over to school that afternoon. We had no reason not to believe him or not to allow him to go as he has never been in trouble. Never could I imagine he would do anything of this kind at his young age.

Also, to those that say he needs to be responsible tell me how in the world do you give a 12 year old parent responsibilities. He is a child! He is clueless on how to take care of a child. I’m not saying he is less culpable than her. They are both children and neither should have to have these worries.

Update: I deeply appreciate everyone who is genuinely being helpful and all of the great advice. I have made a suggestion about putting up the baby for adoption in order to let them both continue to be children and at the same time give the baby an opportunity for a better life. They have however refused. I have contacted a lawyer and we will be meeting with him soon. I have made it clear to the girl’s sister that we will be doing a DNA test as soon as it’s possible. I just can’t shake the feeling that it’s all a nightmare or not really his.

Update: thank you all for your advice and prayers. My son is no longer around her as they have changed schedules at school. His focus at the moment is making A’s in school and athletics. I feel relief that he has no more contact with her and is focusing on being a kid. I don’t know if I’m in the wrong for that or not, but that is how I feel.

I have talked to the girl’s sister a few times but have yet to hear from her parents. Even after we had agreed to meet with them and they canceled they have yet to reschedule. I still have not gotten any proof that she is indeed pregnant, but according to her sister she is due in early August. Meanwhile everyone in our little town got wind of her being pregnant because her sister posted it on social media. I had several friends and family members calling to question me. My older children had peers gossiping and questioning them at school. We simply said we knew nothing because, well frankly we really don’t. After a few weeks the gossip finally died down. My plans are still to wait until after the birth and have them DNA tested. If the baby is his I will help financially as much as we can.

Update:

She is indeed pregnant. I’ve been told she is due in August and it’s a boy. I have yet to hear from her mom or stepfather. The sister is still the only person who has made any contact with me. We are ordering a DNA test once the baby is here to confirm if it is really my son’s.