what? He's only 4!

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my husband just told me that our 4yo (5yo this Monday)  asked why mommies and daddies sleep in the same bed with no underwear on.. he's never seen us together in bed,  so this comes at a shock for me.     he said he told him, because sometimes they want to cause it's comfortable.   any better answer?   I believe he's too young still for the sex talk... just not sure what to say if he asks again..

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He's not too young. Listen to your child and answer his questions with age appropriate language. Consider this your opening for an ongoing open conversation with your child about sex.

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I agree with what the other response was. I'll also add: you might want to ask some questions if you haven't on where he got that idea from.

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Personally I would never have the sex talk with my 4 year old my daughters know the proper term for their private areas and no one is supposed to touch them. My oldest is the only one I’ve had that talk with pretty detailed and she’s soon to be 10 I don’t think 4 year olds need to know about penis going in vaginas but that’s just me.

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He probably heard it from a friend at daycare, or during a playdate, or a cousin, or even overheard a conversation or somthing. I dont think parents need to make as big a deal of sex as some do. Hiding things from them is always a bad thing

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I have a four year old and I’d probably say “ I dunno baby, maybe they are hot?, but we sleep in our underwear even if we’re hot :)” my 4 year old always strips all his clothes off (has since he figured out how at like 16 months) so we always have an ongoing conversation about keeping our underwear on, it makes sense to me.... i read some comments about starting an ‘ongoing conversation about sex’ and I don’t plan on talking to my kids about sex at young ages. I do plan on talking to my kids about boundaries and where people can and cannot touch (on them and others). The kind of ongoing conversations I’m currently having with my kids are don’t climb on the counter/fridge, pick up your toys, wash self/brush your teeth, don’t destroy property, buckle up in the car, school is important... they barely can comprehend these subjects, don’t think I want to tackle sex yet. Just trying to keep it simple over here :)

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How did he know how to ask that would be my question..

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The most important thing is finding out how he got this information. Could it have been tv? 
I believe he's far too young for the sex talk.

what? He's only 4!

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