my husband and I are TTC but we decided it would be best to keep it a secret from our family and friends! my husband's family would be totally excited and happy for us and so would our friends but the problem is my family! To give you an idea, my father hit me and kicked me out of the house when I got engaged (I was 19) and I went and lived with my husbands mom because my husband is in the Coast Guard and at the time he was deployed. my dad and I didn't talk for a year and a half. Then the wedding rolled around half my family decided to boycott the wedding because I didn't have it where they wanted me to have it or because they didn't approve and my dad spent the whole time outside smoking and pouting because he still didn't approve. Most of my family has come around in the last 4 years of our marriage but I don't think any of them would be supportive of us TTC. In fact, I'm dreading telling any of them once I'm actually pregnant because I'm going to get comments like "your too young" (I'm 25 my husband is 27) or "but you have only been married for a few years what if you get a divorce" or "do you really want to have a child when the military controls your life" or "you're throwing away your education" or the typical comment I hear all the time "I'm so disappointed, I thought you were smarter than that!" The person I dread telling the most is my dad! I was adopted and never had a mom so he is my only parent!

this is something I have been wanting for years and my husband and I feel that we are as ready as we will ever be! I just can't stand the idea of having to face my family's judgement and ridicule! I will tell them when I finally am pregnant but I figured why add the stress now while I'm TTC !

is anyone else keeping it a secret? anyone else afraid of what your family will think or say?