Do you think it’s important to teach PANTS?
Charley Knows • 24 and living without a thyroid 💪🏼
PANTS is a new campaign by the NSPCC here in the UK. I saw an advert and thought this is amazing.
If any parents want it I will gladly give the link or just search: NSPCC PANTS
For those who are lazy (usually me) PANTS is for consent talk with children. This is for any age.
Bonus question, would you also use this sort of platform with the sex talk too?
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Yes. I don’t see why anyone would think teaching children about consent and being safe is bad.
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Robert • Jan 12, 2018
that no vote could be about the exact platform, not the content behind it. So saying no to your poll doesn't mean the topic shouldn't be discussed, just that there may be a better way of discussing it (in their opinion).
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Charley Knows • Jan 12, 2018
Wild and scary 😭
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üwa • Jan 12, 2018
I don’t understand why ANYONE would vote no, some people are truly WILD 🙄🙄🙄
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We need this in US 100%. I fucking love this idea
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Ca • Jan 13, 2018
I think it's because it's a private school. He was in public school until 2016, which never did any kind of sex ed.
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🌱🌿 • Jan 12, 2018
That's so fantastic, I'm beyond happy to hear that schools are putting focus on that and teaching it!
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Ca • Jan 12, 2018
my son will be starting sex ed next month. they sent home the curriculum, which includes sections on consent and dating violence. I was like, YES!
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I really wish this was around when my daughter was younger. She ended up getting molested by a family member when she was 5 and she had no idea his "secret game" was bad. It's never too early to talk about consent. It's never too early to help your child notice sexual abuse. And I really wish it was the norm to discuss this early on instead of waiting until they reach their teens. It'll forever be my biggest regret.
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Charley Knows • Jan 12, 2018
I’m so sorry that happened to you and your daughter. I say you because as a mumma you go through it all too! I’m very glad this is about
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So to the 7%, why not?! How are you personally going to speak to your children and approach this issue and talk to them about it? What other programs do you know of like this that do this💁🏼
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🪐 E.T 🪐 • Jan 12, 2018
No need to be sorry guys, but thank you both!
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Charley Knows • Jan 12, 2018
Yes I am sorry too! I just wanted to apologise for the potential trigger first x
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🌱🌿 • Jan 12, 2018
I am so sorry that you were abused! We're survivors and you always have my support. I totally agree with what you said!
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I accidentally hit no when I meant to vote yes 😱I really like this. Consent is so important and kids understanding when something is wrong and how to speak up is never a bad thing! I’m actually going to share this with my sister in laws for their kids and keep it in mind for when I have my own kids(hopefully in the very near future)
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Charley Knows • Jan 12, 2018
Share away! I hope it is effective. Thank you for your comment
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Does pants stand for something or is it just the P? Either way, it’s a great idea and I hope the parents who don’t want to use this specific one will still find a way to talk to their children about abuse / how to know what’s normal and what isn’t. I say what’s normal because when I was abused I genuinely thought it was okay because it was a family member, so he had the right to. So obviously I think talking to your children is VERY important and will encourage them to be more open with you!
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🪐 E.T 🪐 • Jan 12, 2018
Thanks!
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Savannah • Jan 12, 2018
It stands for Privates are private, Always remember your body belongs to you, No means no, Talk about secrets that upset you, and Speak up, someone can help.
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This is legitimately fantastic, it explains things to kids in a way that is simple, yet effective. It also creates room for the conversation of abuse to be had in the first place, as as we’ve seen, people tend to shy away from sexual topics with children. A friend of mine who was abused, thought it was normal until she was like 13, literally because no one had ever discussed what wasn’t and wasn’t appropriate with her or her sister. To sum up, I’m all for this 👌🏾
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Charley Knows • Jan 12, 2018
Thank you for that! It’s great to have people explaining why it’s so good. I agree lots of children assume it’s normal because Mummy, dadddy, auntie, grandpa do it! Such as wiping them, that shouldn’t be done by others except school teachers or the people in the family.
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🌱🌿 • Jan 12, 2018
I was molested when I was 4, and I was never talked to or approached about this subject by any adult until I was about 7. Very young children are extremely vulnerable and they can be so easily taken advantage of. Something more needs to be done in the states here
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Definitely. I am already teach consent by not forcing my child to hug or kiss when they don’t want to. You must wave hi or goodbye, but if you don’t want to hug grandma sue today, you don’t have to because it’s your body and you decide who touches it.
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🐦 • Jan 13, 2018
I hate when parents force their kids to hug and kiss relatives.
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si • Jan 12, 2018
Teaching*
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Yes! It's a great campaign for parents who want to help their children be safe but aren't sure how to address it. The other campaign that I think is great is that there is no secrets from parents EVER! There are only surprises, the difference is surprises have an end date and are fun ( birthdays, christmas', let's give mummy breakfast in bed but don't tell her, let's hoover the house to surprise daddy, lets book a trip away) secrets are never ending and arent always fun to keep. I've taught my children from a young age that there is never anything that they cant tell me, if it is a surprise I will know soon and someone we care about and trust( Daddy, Nana Grandma Grandad) will also know about it and will be able to tell them when I can know and why.
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I’ve always raised my boys to understand the proper terms for their body parts. They understand that they are private and no one should touch them. They don’t keep secrets. They also know about consent and that no one should touch without permission. They also understand not to touch others with their consent. This stuff is really really important to me and I want my children to understand so I’ve made it part of their upbringing. Honestly I don’t see why other parents don’t. I don’t see why this platform is necessary. I speak to my kids like tiny humans. I don’t dumb things down for them or use pretend words or baby talk. Why people do is completely beyond me. For the record, I’m a Mom of 3 boys. A pedophile moved into our beautiful neighborhood 3.5 years ago and he lives 4 doors down. They know exactly why they don’t go near him or his home.
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