stupid questions

How do y'all get over your husband's stupid question.... they just recently started to really get to me and I love him and and not sure how to handle it for example I undress and start that shower and start undoing my hair and he will come in and be like are you ganna take a shower and when I don't answer because I was not aware i needed an answer he started getting really upset -_- or when our daughter pukes all over her self(she's 1 year) he's like what should I do.... uh ya know give her a bath.... Ugh we've been married 3 years and he's great what do I do