Can't orgasm during sex. Little tmi

I've heard there's a few different ways a woman can orgasm. Vaginally and clitoral stimulation are the two that I hear most often.

I have had an orgasm by playing with my clit during sex, but only once did it happen.

I always feel myself tightening up during sex and then wait for the "release" but it just ends there. It doesn't feel better or worse. It just stays like that.

My hubby loves learning new ways to please me and does everything and more to get me there, but I've been over exaggerating the pleasure I feel during sex to make him feel good about himself.

I don't know how to retrace my steps to talk to him about my issue that I'm having. What do you ladies think I should do or try?