I saw this in the controversial corner even though it doesn’t belong here. I wrote an answer and in the meantime the OP deleted her topic. So I hope you read my answer, because you sound like you need some help and advice. If admin is going to delete this it’s okay. Please do so I know this isn’t controversial. And if I need to delete this let me know. I just hope she will read this.

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I’m sorry your struggling this way. To be honest, I think you have a lot of growing up to do and issues to work out before you move out. The fact you have left before without a decent plan and now want to move in with your boyfriend because you think you would be happy there is not going to solve anything.

If you want to move out, make sure that you have your ducks in a row. You need to be able to take care off yourself. This means, a stable income, a job that provides that income long term, a good insurance, a decent home for you to live at, knowing how to take care of yourself (preparing healthy meals, keeping your house clean, doing laundry, paying bills, making sure you can live on a budget that keeps you going until the next pay check, etc.), having your own transportation and most importantly a plan for the future. Where do you want to go with your life? Do you have a college degree? What career do you want to go after? Etc.

If you have all of the above ✔️ there comes part two. Moving in with your boyfriend is a big step. (I hope you see that moving out off your parents house and moving in with your boyfriend are two different things). Are you ready to settle with this man? Do you have a stable and long term relationship (at least 1+ year - although that’s still not really longterm- )? Have you talked with him about the future? Do you have the same goals in life and what do you expect from one another? (Children, marriage, paying the bills, educations, careers, the same morals and values, etc). And does he has his own house or are you planning to move in with his parents?

If all of part two is ✔️ You still have a third part. You are saying you don’t feel happy and that you have had a depression. It sounds like you still have unresolved issues to work through first. If you are going to move out, your life is not becoming easier, it’s becoming harder. Living as an adult is more stressful even though you get more freedom. But freedom doesn’t make you happy in life, your boyfriend will not make you a happy person, you make your own happiness. This is something no one, and no circumstances is going to change, it needs to come from within. The only thing that would make that happen is if you are actively going to work on that. Talking to a professional could help you with that.

Your parents sound very caring and loving. I don’t think they want to make your life difficult, I think they want to help you. Maybe you could ask their help? You should stop running from yourself looking for happiness somewhere else, because it isn’t there long term. You will only make things worse for yourself by possibly losing your boyfriend, your parents trust and your own happiness. And you definitely deserve a lot more. I hope you know that.

And the most easy way is often not the right way. Good things in life are hard work. So go to your parents, thank them for their support, ask for help, work on yourself, keep your relationship fun and healthy, make a life plan with short term goals (like: I want to be ready to move out and get my own place. Or how do I get my college degree? What do I need to do to achieve this? ), and there you go girl 👍🏻 That’s what makes a responsible, independent, confident adult. I hope this all makes sense, take care. 😘