Losing feelings for my boyfriend

So this is quite embarrasing, which is why im on anon. So me and my boyfriend have been together coming up 5 years, were in our early 20’s now. Weve lived together for months & we have a 1 year old girl.

I love him more than anything and can’t picture myself with anyone else, and I know he feels the same, but I don’t feel like he’s putting in any effort anymore.

I play this weird game on my phone, like a story game where its a set story and you choose options to create the rest of the story, I know sad isnt it. Anyway, is it weird I literally fallen in love with characters on the game? Not them specifically cause they are cartoons, but the way they talk and the idea of the love and affection and the compliments these “men” give. I wish I had that.

Its upsetting me because now I feel, does he really love me?

I see similar posts on here and social media of men bringing their girlfriends flowers and expressing their love blah blah, and same with my friends boyfriends too.

He tells me he loves me everyday, but he never tells me im beautiful anymore or makes me feel good. He’s not horrible or nasty, nothing like that, he just doesn’t say anything.

Is it playing this game getting me worked up? Or should I of noticed this a long time ago. I feel lost.

I just want him to hold me and play with my hair, kiss my forehead and look at me like he loves me, and I never noticed it before but he doesn’t do that. I am too scared to bring it up because I know I will cry.

I never felt like this before the game, I feel like I have “other boyfriends” but they aren’t real and I want to talk to them and be treated like other girls do, fake and in real life and I feel stupid because none of it is real.

Thankyou if you read this far and didn’t get bored..

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Cr

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I think the first thing you should do is communicate with your boyfriend and let him know how you feel. Sometimes people just get comfortable and forget to do the things that make their partner feel appreciated; especially after having a child as the child takes away most of the focus from the other person. Talk to him & let him know how you feel

Er

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I think you need to discuss your emotional needs with your boyfriend. My husband and I have very different emotional needs and we both have to be intentional.

Ar

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Stop playing video games. VR is always nicer than the reality.

BB

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Everyone has a different way of showing there love to the other person. My husband doesn’t really do any of those things. I think he bought be flowers one time ever and we’ve been together 8 years. But he always kisses me goodbye and tells me he loves me. He tells me “I hope you have a good day”, “be careful on your way to work”, “I miss you”, etc. Sometimes you just have to open your mind to see that they are still doing things to show you they love you but they just aren’t the things you are looking for. Hope that makes sense!

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The thing about those games is they don’t depict real life. People don’t really talk like that or act like that. We are human beings with our own needs and wants.That’s not to say you should be unhappy. Have you tried being direct with him? Like if you’re laying in bed asking him to play with your hair?