Early on in the pregnancy, I decided I didn’t want to find out the gender, but my husband insisted he needed to know to be prepared. So we compromised - he knows, I don’t know, and he’s not allowed to tell anyone. It’s worked really well so far. I’m 35+2 and he hasn’t so much as slipped. But I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of pushback from people who are frustrated and want to know.

On top of this, we’ve also decided to keep the name a surprise (we have one picked out for each gender). People can just be so negative and I feel any reaction would sway my husband on names that we painstakingly chose over months. And so the name is also a surprise. I didn’t expect this to be a big deal because we don’t know the gender (well, I don’t) so the name isn’t a for sure thing either way, but again we’ve gotten a lot of pushback from people who are frustrated and want to know (mostly family members).

We went out to dinner with the husband’s family last night and FIL made a comment about the baby’s name and kind of rolled his eyes at us.

I just found out last week that they had the option to find out with their firsts and chose not to and I know my MIL was hurt by responses to her name choice for their firstborn. I feel like they should get where I’m coming from, but instead I’m feeling like they’re upset with me. I’ve wondered if I should ask Husband to tell them privately and remind them I really don’t want to know, but I’m so worried they’ll tell me.

Am I just being emotional because of the hormones? Should I loosen the reins on what we share?