Are you honest with your children regardless the effect it may have on their feelings?

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When it comes to my 7 yr old, I usually know where to draw the line when she asks questions, if the answer isn't too mature for her or hurtful I'll tell her the truth. I like her to be informed and aware of what's going on in this crazy world or our family, with limitations of course. Now there are times I feel I just want her to be a child and enjoy her worry free life so I'll bend the truth to a question she may have. Last night I did something I normally would not do and I feel horrible. She had a game and afterwards her father told her she played great....I then said "don't lie to her" meaning she didn't play so great. She knew exactly what I meant and it hurt her. Wtf was I thinking?!?! Has any other parent momentarily been an asshole to their child?

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I don't think you were wrong for what you said but maybe how you said it. I think everyone these days treat children like they should be babies forever. Children need honesty too, how else are they going to grow up and know how to better themselves or take criticism from others? If we parents don't encourage our children to be a better person and know their strengths and weaknesses, they will grow up entitled little brats who think they are the best and shouldn't have to work at anything.

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I try to always remind myself that raising children is more about how you treat them everyday, and less about those little slip ups.   That my one time of overreacting is not the end of my little angels world.   Tell her you are sorry for being so mean, then tell her it does not matter how well she does, you always will love her.  Then stop beating yourself up.  Despite what another poster said, this is not the first step to a path of low self esteem.  As long as you are usually supportive your little girl will be the strong woman you want.

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I think we all have times where we slipped up and said or did something towards our kids and then regretted it. I know I have. I don't think you should feel so bad, but maybe clarify to her today what you meant.... that she is old enough to not be treated like a baby, and she is tough enough to know when she doesn't do well so that next time she can do better. 
My daughter is also 7, so I know what you mean. Don't kick yourself too much, just talk to her today, and let her know she has to be told when she doesn't do something good, or right, so she can learn the correct way and be better at whatever it is. :)

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My stepson has the personality type where if he's not immediately good at something he doesn't want to do it. I try to just instill in him that he needs to put hard work dedication and practice into anything he wants to be good at. And i am honest if hes not doing so great at something. Sometimes hell give it another shot sometimes hell get discouraged and quit, but he's 8. It's way too soon in my opinion for him to know what his interests will be. If he doesn't want to try again I'll let him just move on to the next thing he wants to try. Whether it's drawing, origami, video games, magic tricks, sports, music...

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If being a parent is easy work then ur not doing it right. There will be those slap ur face moments.  But that's the beauty of raising healthy, happy kids.. just wait til their awkward moments hit..  u both will want to run and hide... lol

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Apologise to her and maybe play the sport with her and have her show you how to play so she improves but feels better about herself. Apologise to her and play the sport with her( if you can)

Are you honest with your children regardless the effect it may have on their feelings?

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