sex advise


hey ladies. I'm here for just some advice please. me and my husband have been trying to have sex. penetration. he's been soooo patient with me. in the past 3 years we've been together he's never once pressured me. I was molested as a young kid so being sexual is tough for me. anyways when we get to the penetration I know its going to hurt 😒 but I was wondering if there was any way to make it more relaxed for me? we've tried foreplay and lube irritates my vagina. he's very gentle but the penetration makes me nervous. I never had any teaching of a vagina just how to wipe and put on a pad other than that I never knew where a penis goes or anything till I met him lol. any advice would be helpful and I am also seeing a therapist for the childhood damage.