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Question

What do you do when you’re 6 months pregnant and you and your partner just realised you want different things? 
I know he’s unhappy being with me and being here. I know he doesn’t want this parent life. (We’re both 19) I know this isn’t his ideal. 
I’m happy being home with him, I could just sit on the couch in his company for hours on end and he couldn’t. He wants to smoke weed until the baby comes. I don’t want it near me or our baby. (It’s not he goes out to friends to smoke it but still) 
When he has a bad day he goes to his friends house to smoke instead of coming home to me. 
I’ve lied in the past and he doesn’t fully trust me. He breaks promises and hides things (I always find out though, little things like speeding or how much money he spent etc). 
He doesn’t think he can make me happy. I know he doesn’t want this life. 
But we love each other and want to make it work. Is there hope? 
How? 
I’m balling my eyes out writing this and idk what to do.

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I think that if you are concerned you should sit down with him and talk and just be honest. You seem like a very mature and smart girl and you also have to take into consideration that you are bringing a baby into this world. I wish the best for you and I hope that this helped. Good luck sweety 💚

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There is always hope, he needs some ‘direction’ like study or a job!

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I have been with my partner in crime for 17 years. We met and started dating when I was still in high school I was 17. We had our first child when I was 20. The best thing we did before our son entered this world. We got on the same page and were very Ernest with each out about everything. What we wanted from our relationship, what we expected from each other ie work, parenting, raising a family ect.
We also spoke for our love for one another. Over the years we have had ups and downs. Once’s when things weren’t so good I told him we need to see a councillor to help us because what we are doing isn’t working. He knew if he didn’t I would be gone. So what we did first was have a solo counseling session with the person and then we went together for a session. After the sessions my partner went for quite a few one on one session. That was the best thing we ever did to save our relationship.
It sounds like you and your partner have some under lining issues you both need to work on. I would recommend seeing a councillor some one who won’t take sides.
It also sound like their is drug issue also going on. For your baby’s sake if he doesn’t stop you need to leave him. I have seen this before he will quite when he is ready, he is still young, it’s not a problem ect. If he truly loves you and the baby he would have stopped the moment you found out you were pregnant.
I hope this helps you in some way

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Walk away and find happiness yourself, for both your and your child's sake. Do you want your child to grow up thinking it's ok to be with a partner that is an absent spouse and parent? That prefer to smoke weed than to be with your family? 
 It's hard, you're young (I'm the same age and can't imagine how hard this must be for you), but now you got a baby on the way and you need to think not only for the love you have for him, but for the example you're setting for your child. 
Let him smoke weed, he is the one losing a beautiful partner who is there always waiting for him and a lovely baby. He is the one choosing to throw his family away. Then walk away and find your own happiness.  Show your kid you're stronger than this. You're young and can start again, even with one child. It will be better now than of you wait years to walk out (with the way he is, it will happen one day)

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Update: 
We went to couples therapy and omg it’s changed us for the better, not fixed obviously but definitely helped. We’re gonna spend some time living separately to save money, allow him to blow off some steam (ie get drunk and end up in a bush one last time before the baby) and me to relax. If things don’t get better than we’ll regroup but I’m feeling much better. Thank you ladies xx

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Don't stay if y'all aren't happy. I forced myself to stay with my daughter's dad at 18 and I was miserable for it. I finally decided to leave and I'm happy with who I'm with now! Don't do it just for the baby. It'll end up bad for you and the baby if you stay in a relationship that isn't working.

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