My sister got engaged on Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> and she’s been talking about setting a date for this coming year on October 21 because that’s an important date for her and her fiancé. I will mostly likely be her matron of honor, although she hasn’t asked as of yet.

Anyway, I just found out that I am pregnant again and my due date is mid September. (We also have a soon to be 10 month old.) So that puts me around 5 weeks. My predicament is, do I tell her I am pregnant before we were planning to tell people? If she chooses Oct. 21 as her wedding date, it’s unlikely I will be able to go since it will be in NJ, I live in NC and we will have a newborn and 18 month old. But I also don’t want her to make the decision about her wedding based off of me- I don’t want to be selfish in that respect either.

I’m just stuck and not sure what to do! Do I let her pick a date and venue and then share our news? Or just share with her in advance so that she can decide if she wants to hold off on the wedding longer so I can be there?