Ever feel like other moms steal your experience?!

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I am one of 4 sisters in my family, and I am the last to have a baby. Many of my friends have children also, and I feel like I can never vent about the way I'm feeling!

I am always met with a "oh I've been there!" "Wait for the second trimester!" "It's so worth it!" "You asked for it!"

I know they mean well, and forgive me for my hormones. But let me have a human moment! I know it's gonna be wonderful and magical, but I need a second to be a pregnant woman who is miserable. It's to the point I don't want to talk to them about how I'm doing. I have DH, who is just perfect and understanding. But girl time is non existent these days. Anyone else have these kind of feelings? 😔

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I understand. I'm pregnant for the fifth time, baby #4, and sometimes it's just really rough on my body with a 5, 3, and 2 year old running around at home. I handed my mom my ultrasound photo book from this pregnancy and asked if she wanted to look at updated pictures I got last week, and my 17 year old sister said "I sure wish God would make that thing pop out already so you'll quit talking about it." Excuse the heck out of me, Brat. I'm so sorry that my healthy baby and excitement offends you. She's never been pregnant before, thank God, but she's a hormonal bratty teenager, and I swear she makes me want to punch her sometimes.

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Yeah :/ that happened to me a lot. I'd post stuff about my pregnancy and someone always had something to say.
It's like some people with kids think every pregnancy, birth, and everything else is the same and they know everything. I started keeping to myself.
It doesn't stop after pregnancy either, my daughter isn't even a week old yet and people always have things to say.. I get so annoyed even if they are trying to be nice. It like no, let me be the mommy and go through things on my own please. 
Jus keep your head up, don't listen to anything you don't wanna hear. It's your pregnancy and your time. 
I'm sure you're doing great, I hope you have an amazing pregnancy though and congratulations!

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Omg my sister is the same way!! She's 21, lives at home and just now graduated high school because she met the age limit and tested out.  She rolls her eyes when I visited from half the country away and showed an ultrasound picture to my dad!! I'm sorry if I grew up, went to college and am excited that after two boys I finally get a girl! I feel your pain, sometimes women relatives can be pains in the butts! Lol...

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Im not a FTM  but I am dealing with the same thing. I have a toddler who will be 2 in July and I'm 21 weeks with #2, most of the women around my age in the family have already had 2 or more so they always have something to say. When I want to vent about my growing belly and hyper toddler they say something to annoy me. Lol every pregnancy is different. I have experienced things this time that I never did with my first, so no mom knows it all. I give advice when asked, or tell my experiences when asked but I would never tell a FTM it will be a certain way or anything because who am I to tell them what they are experiencing. I defaintly know what you are talking about.

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I find I'm the same way with my friend. She's pregnant with her 1st and I'm on my 2nd. She was with me my whole pregnancy with my son and so she saw everything that went on and when she says something to me I'm like yep I remember that haha. They are letting you be pregnant. They're simply saying they get it and don't blame you for how you feel that way.
My daughter likes to sit right between my pelvis on my vagina and it feels like someone is pulling down with 20lbs from my cervix. I'm only 21w so it's not labour or baby engaging yet.

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Yes, I feel the exact same.

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I sound like they are relating and showing empathy toward you. Maybe try to see it that way.

Ever feel like other moms steal your experience?!

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