I have been in love with a guy for 8 years and he finally wants me...for the last 2 years we have been on and off because I am married and have a child with my husband. the man j love is mean, and verbally abusive whenever we fight or I say something he doesn't like. my husband, I don't have as much of a connection with but he is so sweet and has always taken care of me. he is a loving man and father. now I have to decide to stay with the father of my child who treats me right or go be with the man of my dreams but risk things being even more toxic. what would you do?