So over the last couple years I’ve been in multiple weddings for my friends. I’ve worn every single bridesmaid’s dress without compliant even when I absolutely hated the dress or felt really ugly in it. It was the bride’s day and her choice. I was happy for the bride and groom so I just put on the dress and played my role as bridesmaid and friend (and it’s not like I was resentful it’s just a dress).

Now it’s my turn to get married. The dress I picked is a deep hot pink, cuts off just at the top of the knees. There’s a lace/shear top bit that covers the shoulders. I picked it because it fits with my venue (a winter wedding in a church) and because it looks good on all my bridesmaids who are all very different sizes. It’s a pretty dress, but it’s not a super sexy dress (which I absolutely do not want- this is a classy and elegant event).

Everyone who’s seen the dresses loves it. Except for one of my bridesmaids (the other four are happy with my pick). She’s upset is pink, that it isn’t a long dress (it’s an afternoon wedding not an evening one and I want to be the only one in a long dress) and that there’s no cleavage. Anyone that knows me knows my colours are pink. So this really shouldn’t be a shocker to my friend who has always known that I’d have pink bridesmaids dresses (I’ve got a pink bow around my waist for my dress!). I just want my wedding to be perfect. And I really can’t handle this girls nonsense. I wore a yellow dress to her wedding (and I have always looked terrible in yellow due to being so pale) without a word expect ‘it’s a beautiful dress! You made such a good choice’ So after the last couple weeks of her complaining and trying to make accommodations for her I’ve decided that I’m going to ask her to step down. But she’s a friend and I’m worried I’m just being a bride-zilla or something. so if you were in my shoes would you ask your bridesmaid to step down or keep trying to work with her?