Sleep help!!!

Natasha

My little guy is not a good sleeper and I’m so frustrated trying everything I’ve read on sleeping and none of it working. For his first month he would only sleep on me but then we got him into the rock n play next to the bed because he had really bad reflux in the beginning, and he did fine. We swaddled him, mostly because he would rub and scratch at his face like crazy and keep himself awake. I figured he’d grow out of that. Nope. 5 months old today and still does it. That being said, he’s still swaddled. He hates it. So do i. But unswaddled, it’s worse because he won’t go to sleep with his crazy arms everywhere. (And legs, but arms are the main issue) I’ve tried one arm out but he just gets mad. We’ve tried getting him into the crib but since he can roll, it has to be unswaddled and if he’s unswaddled there comes the eye rubbing and scratching, accompanied with grabbing his feet because he’s obsessed with them, and therefore no sleep. In addition, it takes forever to get him to sleep (less than 20 min is a miracle, usually more like 45) for every nap and bedtime. I have to rock him, sing, feed/binky, plus the swaddle. His naps are only 25-50 minutes. It’s very rare he sleeps longer. He slept great at night from 6 weeks to 12ish weeks, only waking once if at all. Then he got sick, then sleep regression hit and it’s been a crapshoot ever since, waking every 1-3 hours, i feel like i have a newborn again! (I’m sure part of it is he’s getting big and therefore uncomfortable in the rock n play and almost too big for the swaddle) And every time he wakes he wants a bottle to go back to sleep. I’m going crazy. I don’t want to do the cry it out method but I don’t know what else is left at this point. I feel like I’ve tried everything. If you’ve read this whole thing, god bless you and HELP ME.