The plan was that when we move into our new house and get settled, we were going to start trying for a baby. we're buying the place with my brother-in-law, but now it just feels like new decisions are being made without me and i feel like im being pushed out on a house that I'M actually putting a lot of money in on. me and my husband are both in our 20's and i want at least one child before im 30, but im struggling to see it happening now.

we had each planned out having an extra room in the house (my husband is having a dark room for his photography, my B.I.L is having a games room, and i was planning on using 'my extra room' for a nursery but i have a feeling that when we do get settled my husband is going to decide against having kids. it doesnt help that we havent had sex in over a week and he shows no interest in even doing anything remotely sexual. last night he was touching himself in his sleep and i tried getting closer to him (cuddling and stroking his arm, etc.) and he just kept pushing me away and turned his back on me. i asked him about not wanting me this morning and about us not having sex for a while and he said 'we'll do it soon'. we wont. the last time we did it was his birthday (May 25) but it didnt feel like he had any emotion in it and he didnt care that i didnt get to finish.

i was going to stop my birth control when we move in, that was the plan as it will take a while for my cycle to regulate which should be in the couple of months as we get the house ready. is it bad/wrong of me to still do it? i will tell my husband that im stopping it obviously, but if i stop it and we end up getting pregnant but he decides he doesnt want a baby then, im terrified he'll make me get an abortion or leave me. any advice would be great, NO RUDE OR INSULTING COMMENTS.