Tired of vanilla 😴 advice please!!!!

*sigh* where do i begin?

I have been w my SO for about 2 years, and I lost my virginity to him at 17. (I am 19 and he is 22). Being new to sex I was very happy to do the simple stuff and work up my confidence at my pace.

But obviously now, 2 years later I am very confident. I have tried suggesting to him that we do some different things.

He has a pretty low libido and couldn't care less if we go 2 weeks without having sex. And when we do finally have sex I really want to enjoy it but I have a hard time orgasming normally and lately I've just been finding it so boring. Even if he like lifts my legs in missionary it would appeal more to me. Lately, I have been feeling really disappointed after sex which is not a good thing ever, but it's even worst when it's your long-term partner!

I have tried to take control and gently guide him to something I find more exciting but he just keeps like lying me down and taking my pants off and I don't think I can really say anything too forceful without ruining the moment or making him feel bad.

I feel like I have tried EVERYTHING to spice things up (without going kink crazy) and he just doesn't get into it at all. I tried to show him some cosmo mags and suggested we try out some new moves, I dress up in sexy lingerie occasionally, I just started to send him some sexy snaps while he's on his computer, I bought a small vibrator and was excited to show him, but when I do things like that he acts like I'm some kind of nymphomaniac and i just don't know what to do!!!

Help please. I have read every cosmo advice column but this has me so stumped.