Was I abused?

My first ever relationship was with a guy who manipulated me to break all my sexual standards. By this I mean he guilted me into doing sexual things that I didn't want to do. He didn't respect me. I never actually had sex with him because that was a line I was not going to let him cross, no matter what, I was saving sex for my husband. But even though I never wanted to so anything we ever did, he wasn't exactly forcing me. He did this for 8 months before I finally ended it. I asked my mom and she said it was manipulation and a form of abuse, but she's my mom so she will feel like that. It's been about 2 or 3 years ago and I'm happily married to a sweetheart now, but I still wonder sometimes. Why do you guys think?