Can I rant ??

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So I had responded to someone else’s post last week about my nasty OB/GYN who spoke to me with disgust when I told her I would still like to get pregnant at 46. She ran some baseline blood work (estradiol, FSH, LH, prolactin ) to prove to me that I was hitting menopause (I wasn’t), but when I asked for further testing (ie progesterone, egg reserve etc) for overall fertility health, she told me I needed to make an appointment with a fertility clinic. 
So I called today to make an appointment for blood work at one of, if not the  biggest in the US, but also right around the corner from my house. When the woman was taking my information, she stopped when she heard my birthdate, and informed me that they won’t do IVF on women over 45 ( I KNOW THAT! I Just want blood work!) She then asked if I was interested in donor eggs. I just reiterated that I JUST WANT BLOOD WORK. She then informed me that unless I was pursuing donor eggs they would not do blood work. She told me to go back to my dr. I told her that my dr. had sent me to them.
I am so tired of being treated like some medical pariah. I know my chances are slim, I know there are risks, I know I face an uphill battle. I’m educated and rational and  by no means a stupid woman. All I want is to have a full picture of my own personal health so I can make choices accordingly. I’m starting to believe the  way the Ob/fertility community treats older women is just outrageous.

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You are not alone, I feel the same way. These doctors are discouraging and can make us feel like we are 95! I personally feel that if you get your menstruation on a regular basis we still produce a few good eggs and  the chance is there. Don't give up

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They are so incredibly stupid. So sorry you went through this. I know someone who had a beautiful, healthy full term baby girl when she was 48 years old. So don't give up!!! 40 is the new 30 :)

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I know how you feel!!!! It feels like this whole fertility doctors are treating patients more like a business than being caring and understanding. We tried IVF a few years ago and it didn’t work. After it failing the doctor decided to tell my husband and I what we could do in order to better my chances, like supplements we could take and acupuncture. Why couldn’t he just tell us this before? He said we could try again, but we didn’t have the money to give it a second try. All this did was leave me depressed, hopeless and angry.

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Wow.  How upsetting.  Thank you for sharing!

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It’s terribly insensitive. I’m sorry you had to experience that. Keeping my fingers crossed that your journey will be a peaceful and happy one!

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That is freaking outrageous! My fertility specialists would be happy to take your money😳. Just find a different one and tell them you want a fertility workup so you can decide what to do from there.... why in the hell are they asking you over the phone what your intentions are at this point?

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I got this kind of treatment from 2 London clinics, aged 38. Sometimes I think they just can’t be bothered with older women. It’s actually discrimination!

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This just made me upset! I'm so sorry that you had to experience this and I'm (we all are) routing for you.

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Ugh how annoying!!!! Your OB should be able to do a day 21 progesterone test as well as AMH and an antral follicle count at the start of your cycle.  Mine was able to do that for me.

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Maybe make a new post and ask others in our age group for recommendations of where they got their tests done (in your city) and were treated with respect