very traumatic experience

ainsley • ainsley

im not seeking advice or sympathy i simply just need to vent and have somebody acknowledge what we have just been through without so much as a sorry when proven innocent. will likely be a long post so i can put in all of rhw facts. im in the uk and am a 32 year old mother of 4 eldest is 13 years. i noticed a blue/grey mark on my babies buttock whilst changing her and instantly knew it was a mongolian blue spot as my neice has one on her back.last week we had a routine health visitor appointment at home which i decided to disclose this mark to my health visitor so it could be documented and wouldnt be confused for a bruise at any furter date. health visitor tells me to take baby to gp to jabe it confirmed and to confirm its not a bruise. no problem. i had baby seen that same day but the gp could not determine what the mark was so arranged for blood tests and referred us to a pedi to check out the mark. the gp very clearly reported there are no safegurding concerns AT ALL concerning this family and the mark is NON SUSPICIOUSm that should have been the end of it and we would have attended appoinments arranged to confirm what this mark was. next day i get a call from childrens social services and told im to take my baby to hosptal for a full child protection medical. me and my partner did not sleep or eat for 2 days even doubting ourselves it was a birthmark and wracking our brains to think if it was a bruise how has it got there. have we handles her too rough? have we sat her on the clips in her baby chair? have we not watched the other chikdren properly around her but there was nothing. next day another call from social services. we have arranged an appointment for 2pm for a child protection medical and 2 social workers will be present. fine. we was picked up at our home and told to follow social workers car to the appointment.we was escorted like child abusing criminals to our appointment. pedi took one look an said thats a mongolian blue spot the room started to spin and i cant remeber well what was said after that. my partner told me one social worker said to the other go out and call it off. so if it was a bruise they would have sent someone to come for the baby an pick up the older children from school and me and my partner would have been arrested and questioned over child abuse! that was the end of it i said is that it now social worker replied yes live your lives not a sorry for the trauma of the past 2 days. received a letter today from childrens social services to confirm there are no further concerns an we wont be hearing from them again. we are traumatised well and truelly. was treated so unfair. i know it was them just doing their job and if it saves just one child from abuse then its all worth it but its not nice to be put in a position of almost losing your children and been made to feel like you have done something wrong. i have never been so terrified in my life and its going to take a while to get my head round what the hell we have actually just gone through. i held my kids extra tight that night and praised the lord we got a decent honest doctor who checked our baby over properly and confirmed what deep down we already knew. i hope no other innocent family ever has to go through what we have.

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