Distant after an orgasm. Just men or women too?

For some reason it bothers me when people say men become distant after sex and women get more cuddly. Am I the only one? lol I noticed since the first time I masturbated which was many many years ago lol I would automatically feel " eww" looking at the person I was masturbating to and would become distant? With my bf who I love as well. If I orgasm I feel like I need space and obviously feel no sexual tension at all and want to just think about anything but sex. When I don't orgasm I end up being extra cuddly with him after sex. Am I the only one? Because I feel like society makes it seem like only men do this? Lol weird question I know.. but I just need to know 😂