Postpartum depression? Or normal?

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I can’t quiet connect to my baby as a human being. I see him more as a poop, sleep and repeat machine. No feelings really there other than an endless cycle... and not one that I necessarily like. I hate saying that. I don’t want wish him to go away. Or wish bad. I love him. But I’m not connected. I feel sad when I think about how different everything is. How I can’t even get ready without it taking 4 hours to go to the store. No date nights. Nothing. My life as I knew it has changed. Not in a bad way really because I don’t mind my new life. I just have an overwhelming sad feeling. My OB said I don’t have PPD but put me on 50 mg of Zoloft. Because they said I don’t have it and I feel the way I do, I feel like a bad mom and that makes me even more sad. Like I can’t be my best self for him. I’m an overachiever and very much so want things to be perfect. So... it’s been even more hard. No schedule. It all feels like chaos. 24/7 chaos. My SO couldn’t take off work so I do it all alone. I’m so overwhelmed. I took of off school. I stopped working. I just don’t even know what to do with myself. Yet at the same time, I have no free time anyways. I’m confused to say the least. This post doesn’t even make sense as I’m explaining myself?? Lol. I’m just... lost. I’m the first of all my friends to have a baby so I don’t have anyone to talk to. Other than family but their too close to me, where I don’t feel comfortable saying these feelings. It scares me more than anything that I feel this. I just don’t know that to do. I also have not taken the Zoloft because my dr said it’s not ppd and I don’t see the point of medicating?? I don’t know what’s wrong with me. Im a month pp.

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Doctors can be wrong. Try the medication to see if it helps. You are a great momma!

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You're not a bad mom! I think it's normal to some degree to feel that way. I was definitely overwhelmed too and had a difficult time adjusting, but it's gotten better. There are still days when I feel sad or frustrated wishing I was working or closer to family (they live in another country). Motherhood is life changing. I think you should talk to your doctor again. I don't think they can just brush it off and tell you that you don't have PPD especially if you are continuing to feel that way.

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A psychiatrist would be the one to go to for this subject.

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You’re not a bad Mum I promise xx it does sound like ppd though, not sure why your dr is so adamant it’s not. It took me a loooong time to adjust to being a Mum. I really struggled with the fact that you live all day every day for someone else, I felt like I lost all sense of who I was. Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughter and I wouldn’t change a thing but I did find it a big adjustment. As your LO grows and begins to interact things will change. It will become a much less one sided relationship and I promise you will begin to feel like your old self again. Don’t be afraid to go and get another opinion from another dr if you’re not happy with the care you’re getting

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Hi, 
I’m a mum to two beautiful children, ages 7 and 2 weeks. As much as I love my kids, they’re hard work. I feel that no one ever tells you the reality of having kids and when you do have them everyone is so wrapped up in the excitement of the new arrival, everyone forgets Mum might be struggling. It’s especially hard with a first child as it’s a whole new dynamic and everything changes. Your whole life. No one tells you that either. 
I don’t think your doctor has been very good; if you feel like you have a problem then you do. Only you know what your emotional state is like. 
Your bond with your baby will come. It might not be the instant connection everyone says it will be... it might take time... but it will come. I know this because your on here asking for advice and if you didn’t care you wouldn’t bother asking. 
Try to get out with your baby as much as you can even if it’s just a walk to break your daily routine up a bit. Ask family if they can babysit for a few hours so you can have date night. Most importantly; speak to your family. My best friend recently had a baby and suffered from post natal depression and I was so pleased she felt like she could turn to me for support and I gave her exactly the same advice I’m giving you and that is that parenting is the hardest thing you will ever do. But eventually, your baby will smile at you or tell you they love you and it will all come together. What your feeling is normal. Your not alone in feeling the way you do, your just brave enough to admit it.
Best of luck x

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Why did they say it wasntPPD?  Sounds like it to me and I had it with both my kids.  Zoloft has been a miracle drug for me.  3 years later and I’m still on it and not for PPD anymore, just generalized anxiety and depression. If it makes you feel better and more present with your baby who cares if its labeled PPD or not  🤷‍♀️

Postpartum depression? Or normal?

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