Okay so a while ago I saw a post about how a mother was upset she didn’t hold or see her baby first. She had a c section and said she didnt want family there. Mother came to her recovery room and showed her a picture of her holding the baby. I would have been pissed as well, because I believe they should have respected her wishes and of course mommy and daddy hold baby first. They give the baby to their mama first for a reason, right?

Well I had talked with my family about this and my father thinks there was nothing wrong with grandmother holding her grandchild first. He said the fact that the mother was upset about it is selfish, because everyone else was excited and waiting to see/hold the baby. I don’t find it selfish, I think it’s only right for mama to hold her baby first.

Now I’m not planning on having a baby soon but I sure do know that I want my privacy and my wishes to be respected. I don’t want to tell anyone (besides people who will be in the delivery room) when I’m going into labour. I will only tell hubby (of course) and my mother. Though my father will not be in the room, I will tell him because I still want him there too. (Hubbys mother and father outside the room as well). If a situation were to happen where I couldn’t hold the baby, nobody besides the father will hold the baby (I believe the parents should hold baby first if that’s what they want). My question is, do you think it’s selfish that some people want this kind of privacy/want mama and daddy to hold the baby first?

Btw, I would announce to other relatives once I’m ready, I do not want to be bombarded with people once I just pushed a watermelon out of my vagina.