advice and comfort welcome

I was looking through my fiance phone for the first time and I found messages in the phone from him and another female. her name is under a male name. basically they were talking about seeing eachother and him paying her to fool around. we had our whole valentines weekend planned already bought tickets to see black panther already made reservation on our jucuzzi room. bought outfits and everything. I was pumped then I see this message from "james" and I see their interaction. my fiance works at a plant and I believe the girl use to work there as well. because a while ago he told me that his mom who also works therr came to him and told him this girl liked him at work. and then he started hereing from other workers that she was basically a hoe that half of them hit it. so after she was fired. in the message she said she miss him and wanted to see him asap. so I figured either he messed with her before or this is the girl from his job or both. he use to leave home early to pick up a coworker he said was james. now its all coming togather. I havent confronted him yet I plan to tonight. I had actually wanted to wait until after Satur since he told the escort about our room and how I had to go to work so he would drop me off and take her to enjoy the rest of the stay there until checkout. mind you I work at a hotel and its in my name and my work discount. holiday inn express. I wanted to see if he would actually go through with it not thinking he probably already have. I found out she was an escort because I looked up the number her name was under and found her on escort services and a backpage account for her popped up. so I did message her thinking she would answer some questions for me like rather they had sex before etc but she wasnt budging unless I was paying her for some H or S. so I'm just going to confront him and see what he decides to be truthfully about.ugh I'm so in shock that it hasnt dawned on me yet. I havent cried yet though I can feel it. we had so much planned. we been togather fove years. were engaged and have been TTC for a year now. that's been an emotional rollercoaster on top of finding this out. I dont know what to do but at the same time I do. the escort wants me to call her but i think I'll pass unless she giving me some information I could use. I feel like I'm back with my daughters father all over again. he cheated on me for two years we were togatjer 6 years. he cheated with plenty of girls and one was a friend who he ended up getting pregnant after I left him for good. I was devastated and raisong my baby alone. I fell depressed and I wanted to commit suicide because emotionally i wasnt all there. along with PPD. and I look back and I just dont want to be there in that space again. it took a lot for me to heal and have peace. just thinking of all we've been through and to call off having a child something I want again so bad really hurts my heart but its what I have to do. I know I'm going to feel this ten followers but I don't know. anybody have the same experience or pain, I just needed to vent and I felt so alone the first time around with my daughters father and I know I'm not alone

this time around. should I let him explain himself or just kick him to the curb.!!

the number posted is not my fiance number its the escorts number. he put her name under james. and her escort number is all over the internet already. she has it posted on plenty of different sites which how I found out who and what she was.

update: thank you for all the support. I was so in shock I have yet to allow myself to cry, though I have been sad everyday. EVERYTHING in me wants to say something to him but I really want to wait until sunday to bust him but it is hard acting like I'm okay in front of him. I was going to contact the escort again soon to find out when she would be up there. I actually because I know I wont be able to leave work to go back up there and I have to be to work at ten and the check out time for the room is 12. so what i was going to do was call him and video chat him to see if he will pick it up. because we always video chat and I'm going to see his behavior, either way once I'm off work I'm showing him all the messages and everything ive found. I will give him a peacebof my mind. in a way I feel like he know that I know because the day I found the messages he woke up lookingbfor his phone and I told him it is in the bathroom its been in there all night. and after that ive just been in my feelings and distant. he noticed asking me what's wrong and talking about how I'm not excited like I usually am. and then asked did he do something.? I want to scream at him right there and then. but I really want to know if going to go through with paying this escort. we put our money togather and we put it in a box. I counted how much was in there and I will count again Sunday. I actually have only been talking to my male bestfriend about this. and was thinking about asking him to hang out and go see blank panther with me instead. I will keep you all updated. he dontnhave much to pack so it wont take long but my daughter love him like crazy so that will be a little harder to explain. she's 6 by the way.

update plans had changed, . he got called into work and ii called off work. so it was literally making me sick to hold in. I just decided to confront him about it. of course he said he worked with her but not any more and that he wasn't really planning on seeing her. I still let him know that flirting and everything he said to the whore was unacceptable

I don't want to word for word I went to see the movie with my friend but I just wasn't feeling anything. canceled the room because I know I can't believe him. I just need time I'm able to financially support me and my child. I am just going to have to take time to emotionally get back up. i have depression sometimes. but i know ill be fine. ive been through this before, i know how to deal with it. even though it didn't hurt as bad as he first time with my daughter father. the moment i found out i shut off my feelings. sitting here trying to figure out were I/he/we went wrong. what makes a person stoop so low. i know I'm not to blame but what did i contribute to his decision if any. either way ill be fine eventually idk thank you everybody for the support.

update: yes he's gone. but I haven't told my daughter. she is gone with her father for winter break so she wont be back for a week.