So I just wanted to rant about something really quickly. Just because my family is making me so angry with their shitty looks and sideways comments. My family is so gossipy it kills me.

So I got married Nov 2016. A lot happened and we did our best to make it work. We weren’t very good at it and we separated. I went to visit my dad’s brother for a couple of months, and some traumatic sh*t happened to me while I was there. When I came back I had even more issues Han before, and so did he. There are a lot of details that I am leaving out here, so don’t place judgement.

Basically I couldn’t deal with both my (very deep seated) issues and his, and honestly he has no coping skills and so he relied on me even more for everything. I told him I wanted a divorce. Then a week later his unit surprise deployed him (excellent timing if you ask me 😒). He and suggested that I stay and take care of the dogs and the house while he was gone, and when he came back I would leave. I stayed for a month and then I left.

I moved out about four months ago. He came back in January. I met someone in November who makes me smile every day we are together. So I figured after a full year of struggling through a marriage I was very unhappy in, maybe I should give him a chance. He is a wonderful, strong, extremely intelligent, tolerant man who compliments me very well. He makes me feel safe (which is saying a lot because I haven’t felt safe with anyone in years).

One day I decided that I needed to be closer to my family, especially with no one out there except my boyfriend and one very good friend who let me move in with her. So I moved to Charlotte, NC. My boyfriend really didn’t want me to just leave that way, and neither of us really had anything holding us there, so he decided to come along with me.

My mom’s brother welcomed us with open arms and has helped us find a nice little apartment and even helped us find new jobs. However, the older members of the family are throwing so much shade and gossiping about me to anyone who will listen. No one will say anything to my face, but the roll their eyes and make snide comments, simply because they don’t understand how I could be with my ex a year ago and now they see me with someone else.

These are the kind of women who marry terrible men and stay with them no matter what horrible things they do to everyone in the family, so they don’t understand how I could have been so miserable as to have left. They also do not approve of me being in a relationship before the divorce is final, even though he is the one dragging things out as far as he is. If it was up to me I would have signed the papers weeks ago and been done with it.

I guess I’m just angry that these people who are supposed to be helping me through a time of turmoil can be so unsupportive. I shouldn’t be surprised because they left me homeless when I was younger, but it still hurts.

Gotta love family 🙄