This is the first time using gifs. So sorry if it’s awkward but some of them just fit the feelings I had at the time.

So a little over 3 yrs ago, before my SO and I met, I went on a date. I should have known better than to trust a dating app like match.com but I was divorced and wanted to give dating a try and just needed a way to go about it. I ended up connecting with a guy. He looked ok and his bio was an almost match so I figured, why not?!

I should have gone with my gut and pass his profile.

Well we texted a little and decided to meet up for dinner and to watch a band. Well, that’s when things went south fast. When I met him I was taken aback. He looked NOTHING like his profile picture. I’m not sure if he was a pro at photoshop or what but he just looked nothing like his picture. But I’m not one to go by looks but that was the first red flag.

Second was the fact he was way shorter than he claimed.

I’m also not one to care about that but that’s the second red flag.

The Third was the smoking. I’m a non smoker and he smoked like a chimney.

So I was beyond pissed off but figured I would suck it up and just end it after dinner. So we went to the concert and then to dinner. It was so awkward sitting with him right there and realising this guy was nothing he claimed to be. At the end of the night, I am ready to run for the hills.

So I end the date by just saying “I’ll text you later.”

I’m not even out of the parking lot and he is blowing up my phone!

I’m ignoring it because I’m not even going to entertain him. When I get back to the hotel I was staying at, I am looking at the dress I was wearing there were holes all over it from his damn cigarette!!

So after that night I just ignored him until he got the hint.

Fast forward to last week. I’m on instagram posting some pictures from Mardi Gras parades I was at.

It wasn’t til I got home after the parade did I see I had a message on my Instagram account. I look to see who it was and guess who?!?

That’s right. That horrible date! Mind you it’s been over 3 yrs since that horrible night and he is asking me if he can come party. I was like “it’s Mardi Gras and anyone can come to it.”

Now I know many of you are like....

even respond.

But I’m one to just leave the past in the past. Well, apparently he can’t. Instead of just asking about parade schedule or what is a good place to go to, he asks if I’m seeing someone. And if I am missing him? I just can’t even process what the hell is being messaged to me so I tell him I’m seeing someone and that he is what I have been looking for. He delays his response to me and then asks if he lives in the same city as me! I’m like yes he does and what on Earth are you hinting at?! I also told him “even if he wasn’t here, I wouldn’t cheat on him.” That’s when he remarked “I wish you would.” So I am getting mad....

But I figured that the best way to get him to leave me alone is to be a little nasty in words. I didn’t use profanity but I used some very strong words to let him know it’s a big fat.....

Pretty much told him that I don’t live in the past but it’s sad that he still does. Maybe instead of hanging onto it, he should listen to his family and just be grateful for what he has so far and maybe he would already be married with a family instead of holding out hoping one of the many girls, that he mentioned during our date, would come out of hiding to be with him.

I also told him. That once he gets out of his past living and looks forward to the future he can find happiness but to keep me out of the loop because that happiness will NEVER be with me.

To me it sounded harsh but I just want him to leave me the hell alone. This guy has stalked ever social media platform I am on. I finally blocked him on all of them.

And if of you are questioning why I stayed during the date, I’m one to give the benefit of the doubt. But when you lie about everything about yourself, it doesn’t make for a good start. I mentioned many times during the date that he should have been straightforward with me about things but he just tried to push it aside. I think he was hoping I would fall for him. It didn’t happen and never will.

Thanks again for reading my post.