How do so many people end up with kids when they clearly shouldn’t have them?

I am a teacher. I love all of my students and they are a huge part of my life. When they hurt, I hurt. So how do you think I feel when one of my students comes to class smelling of urine, with unkempt hair that he cut himself that morning, and sleeps through the day because he was up all night with no supervision? I call home all the time. I’ve only been able to make contact with the mother twice. She promised to wash his jacket, but he cane back today and it still smelled like dog pee. I send home homework and it never comes back. He never completes work in class and is failing because his adults have no interest in how he’s doing in school, despite my, my principal’s, and my counselor’s interventions.

This is the person who gets to have a child. Actually, five children. He has several siblings.

While my husband and I miscarry our twins; While I sit here, calling the mother again and again on what would have been the week before our due date; I just keep thinking:

This is not fair.

Thank you for reading ❤️