Moving Forward
I really need advice. I met this guy a few years ago and we were interested in each other but we stopped talking for a long time and dated other people and last year, a couple years after meeting and what not, he randomly, out of nowhere, popped up at the church I’d been going to for a few months and I started seeing him regularly and talking to him again and it felt really nice but really weird and I was seeing someone so I kept my distance. When I broke up with that guy I took some time to get over him but I felt this lingering feeling like I should pursue this relationship again. He’s an intern at our church and were both in college and working. He’s crazy busy but so sweet and generous and we have so much in common and he’s super cute and he’s basically my perfect match honestly. We dated for a little over a month and at first it was great but he started focusing more on his more important things like school and his internship with the church. We were barely seeing each other AND barely talking and I brought it up to him and we broke up. He explained that he couldn’t do any more for me than he already was and that he feels like he jumped into our relationship too soon and that he needs to figure things out and make sure God is his focus and that he felt really bad because he knew he couldn’t give me more.. anyways we’re friends now, still don’t talk much but when I saw him at church it wasn’t awkward but I’m trying to figure out how to move forward.. like if I should be single and think about eventually pursuing other options or if I should be friends with him with the expectation of re-evaluating things later on.. I feel like we don’t have closure in that part of our breakup and there’s no definitive answer. All I know is that since we broke up I’ve been running after God like crazy and praying for this boy every time I think about it.. I really feel deep down that he’s the person for me but that this was the wrong time.. I can’t tell if this is God closing the door or if it’s Him saying not now.. sorry this is so long.
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