so my cousin got engaged on Christmas. to a guy that I don’t like. I don’t like him or his family. I never have. My cousin knows this and so does her now fiancé. They’ve been together for 5 years this year. They’ve never lived together, never been on a trip alone together, and actually hardly spend any alone time together mostly because his family always has to be around for some reason. They all have this weird unhealthy attachment to each other. She tells me when they’re actually away from his family that her fiancé is like a totally different person. But I’ve never seen it because his family is always around. She even told me his family got mad at him for how he proposed to her. He did it on Christmas morning at her place with her parents and brother, and his family got mad because he didn’t include them/do it at their home.

Their wedding is in 2020. I love my cousin very much, we are very close, and as much as I want to support her, I don’t think I’ll be going. Not to mention she’s having her wedding across the entire country from where we all live, so that’s extra expenses that we may not be able to afford, even though it is two years away. I have a feeling we wouldn’t be the only ones not going just due to that fact.

Ever since they’ve been together she always tells me how annoying and unfair he and/or his family can be, and how he tells her she can’t do things but then he can go do the things that he told her she can’t do. She’s always complaining about something with him and/or his family. I don’t think she should be marrying him, and even when she asked me a couple years ago if they ever got married would I go to the wedding, I told her no.

Am I just being silly about it all? If we can go should we? I just don’t really know because I love her but don’t support who she’s marrying after everything she’s told me and everything he’s done/hasn’t done over the years.