I got married in October. We dated for 4 years before we got married. We were off and in a lot. Most of the time when we got into a disagreement or something happened we would stop talking. It was never my decision... he would just go silent and withdraw. He wouldn’t contact me and I would follow his lead. He would never as for the keys to his house back but we weren’t on talking terms. We got back together a year before we got married. I was visiting back and forth and things were okay. And then communication started to break down... and that cycle started where he wanted to call of the wedding etc. We pushed through and got married.

Now I feel like it was a mistake. I feel so dissatisfied and disappointed. I do not trust him... I have caught him texting a female at 930 at night...before we got married. I asked him about it and we talked about it. Back when we were dating I found a condom in his luggage that he would use to travel back to his hometown. He said it was old and that it was nothing. I blew it off and moved forward. We have NEVER used condoms. Just recently he went on a work trip .. over the weekend and got really defensive and irritated and aggressive when i asked why he wasn’t answering my calls and would call me back 10 min or less after I called. It was about 945 at night and he said he was listening to live music and it was too loud to answer. But he was having this conversation via text???? So how come he couldn’t step out or talk to me via text. According to him he couldn’t eat.. shoot pool or listen to live music cuz I was blowing him up.... but it’s late for a married man to be out and not being responsive to his wife’s calls... and I would not have had an issue with him hanging out but I was under the impression he would be back at his room not out and about like he’s on a date or a guy’s trip... this was a work trip....

We haven’t been talking since he got back...and I moved to sleep in a separate room. Any thoughts. I’m really ready to leave. It’s been too much of a roller coaster

Each time we fight he says he’s gonna move to an apartment and pay for a divorce. He actually said this after a conversation on the previous Wednesday. Needless to say we have sex at most 2 times a month if I’m lucky and could be exaggerating. At any rate it’s not enough