I don't want a baby shower this is my second I don't feel the need so my mom wants to do a gender party with just family I don't hate the idea but I want to find out at the ultrasound with my own little family boyfriend and son if I do the party in will have to wait and find out with everyone and I'm not sure I want to do that I want to be able to feel what I feel at the time not worry about everyone else I just feel bad saying no I have told her no but she keeps saying yes it will be fun I think she just wants to be included what should I do?