How do you stop worrying?

Question

Just how do you stop worrying about something going wrong? I can’t stop :(

Answer

You won’t. You are a mom now. For now you will worry that they aren’t growing right or that you ate the wrong things, as you head towards labor, you’ll start worrying about if they are kicking enough and how much water you are drinking, after they are born you’ll worry about SIDS and if they are eating too much or not enough. Part of the joy and burden of being a mom is always worrying about the little life you are making- it’s normal! It means you care for them, it’s part of the job, even though it is difficult. 
I’ve learned to try and focus on what I can control. During my first trimester, I told myself I couldn’t control if I had a miscarriage- but I could control how much rest I was getting, if I was taking my prenatales and how I ate which could help lessen the chances of a miscarriage. During my second trimester I was always worried there would be abnormal scans or something wrong with the baby- but I couldn’t control that. I could control what questions I asked the doctor, and the information I read to help prepare me if there were problems (there wasn’t). I’m about 29 weeks now, and I am starting to worry about how my labor will go with this baby- but I can’t control that! I can control if I have a birth plan, if my hospital bag is packed, and if I am prepared with breathing and pain coping techniques!   
Long story short, focus on the good! Focus on what you can control and accept that you can’t control everything!! It will all be okay mama :)

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It’s little things along the way that help out. I’ve had two miscarriages. The first was at 10 weeks after I had already heard the heartbeat. The second was a chemical. With this pregnancy, I’m now 9+4 and it’s random things that have slowly been putting my mind at ease along the way. First was an ultrasound at 6 weeks. Next was when my doctor put me on progesterone. After that I felt even better when the spotting stopped. Then I had another ultrasound at 7+5. Yesterday at 9+3, I found the heartbeat with a fetal Doppler for a quick couple of seconds. Every day and everything that happens/or doesn’t happen, helps me feel a little bit better. I’m just trying to maintain the mentality that nothing is wrong unless I am given a reason to believe something is wrong.

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When you find that out let me know lol it’s so very hard not to worry which is u fortunate because it makes it impossible to really enjoy the pregnancy ! I try to think as much as I can that I am taking the best care of myself that I possibly can and that’s all I can control ..... it helps sometimes

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