Unknowingly miscarry?

Question

I'm almost 9 weeks and had a U/S on 7 weeks and 4 days showing everything was fine, heartbeat present, etc. It's my first pregnancy.
We chose that day to announce to my parents and my SO's parents and brother. Both (SO's parents and brother) were quick to remind me that there was still a risk of miscarrying for a few weeks, like it happened to my brother-in-law's wife, who discovered she had when she went for her 12 weeks U/S... Which basically means that she carried a dead baby for a few weeks without knowing it.
It has made me very nervous and I can't stop thinking about it. I know that miscarrying would mean the pregnancy wasn't viable anyway but I'm terrified of finding out a number of weeks after the fact.
I haven't been very sick just very tired, like my mum was for me and my sister when she had us, that's a blessing (I'm happy not to be nauseous) but it also means I have no real way of observing a real change (like, hu-ho, why am I not sick anymore), and it has me troubled.
I'm worried everytime I have the slightest cramp, even when they turn out to be the usual intestinal stuff (I've always been prone to flatulence) and I've been having pretty bloody/violent nightmares and I wouldn't be surprised if it was my anxiety speaking.
ANYWAY... On to the question: is it really possible to miscarry and not know for a few weeks?
Should I beg my doctor for another bloodtest or U/S for confirmation that all is well (even if he'll surely be even more condescending than he already is and that's not something I relish)??

Thank you all for your opinion...

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It is definitely possible to have a missed miscarriage. I was 18w when I found out that my baby had passed away at 13-14w. I never had any signs or symptoms that anything was wrong. It's scary to know this can happen I know. But try not to worry yourself crazy. You have every reason to believe that your pregnancy will go on just fine. I am now 7 weeks pregnant after my missed miscarriage and just taking everything one day at a time, trying not to worry about all that could go wrong again. What will be, will be. Good luck!

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I had a missed miscarriage. It was my first pregnancy. I was after told I would have a hard time having kids because I was left with a lot of scar tissue from my d and c. But I now am 11weeks pregnant with baby #3. A missed miscarriage is always a possibility. But not likely. Just try to relax and enjoy this pregnancy. I personally would have been mad that the even brought it up. Its a time for positivity. Their comments were not necessary. Everything will be perfect. I have had an ultrasound every week and everything is going perfect. With my 2 prior successful pregnancies I was extremely sick. This time I don't feel pregnant at all. So I get it can be scary. But its totally possible to just have an easy healthy pregnancy. Good luck and I hope you just enjoy your pregnancy.

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Yes unfortunately it is possible :( it's called a missed miscarriage. We saw am heartbeat and baby at 7 weeks 5 days and dr had me come back at 12. We found out a 12 weeks the heart had stopped at 8. So I had been carrying the baby for 4 weeks thinking everything was ok. I never bled or cramped or had any sign of mc. I also had zero morning sickness. Not to scare you at all but its possible.

I am pregnant again and my Dr is doing ultrasounds every 10 days to make sure everything is ok. I'm currently 9 weeks.

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Yes. I had a missed miscarriage at 16 weeks. It happens and it's so sad. But you can't worry constantly. You can't stop it. Some woman lose their pregnancy signs and others like me will still feel pregnant. It is just a crappy situation.

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Yes, definitely possible for missed miscarriage. I had one at 9 weeks in December found out at 12 week appointment. Craziest thing is I was at the add at 8 weeks and everything was perfect. I wouldn't worry too much because the risks are rare but it does happen.

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I don't understand why would someone tell anything like this to a person announcing such great news... Miscarriages happen less often than it seems, and stress is not good for the baby. Relax, convince yourself that you are having a healthy pregnancy! Don't think about bad stuff... I read too much stuff about miss carrying here on Glow, and was super worried all the time, but got myself together, and convinced myself that my pregnancy is HEALTHY! And from what I feel and my doctor is telling me- it IS healthy. So will be yours!!!

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I had/have the same worries. There is always anxiety until your next appt when you can finally see baby is doing well. I've had 2 miscarriages so I'm extra anxious. I got myself a fetal Doppler because I was driving myself crazy not knowing how baby was doing. It has been so nice and reassuring to hear that little heartbeat! :) maybe think about getting one.

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Here is my story. First off everyone is different. Symptoms come, symptoms go...that's not something to be worried about and the high majority of women go on to have healthy babies. However I had a mmc (missed misscarriage) when I was supposed to be 9 weeks the baby only measured 6 or so and had no heartbeat. I had no bleeding so I didn't suspect anything. There was one night when I had extremely crippling pain but I didn't think anything of it because I had the same pain before from eating certain foods so I just assumed I ate something that didn't agree. Looking back at it now this must have been the night I miscarried. Like you, I was never nauseous (and also didn't have sore boobs) so I had nothing to go by but fatigue. That weekend when I had normally been dropping by 9, I was up until 2 and ready to keep going . I thought my body had just adjusted to late nights (I'm a night owl when I'm not pregnant) but now I know it's because I miscarried. There was other things I noticed as well but never thought anything of it. Basically unless you have crippling pain or lose all your symptoms, I wouldn't worry about a thing! =)

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I should add that my next U/S is planned for July 20, when I'll be 14 weeks and that sounds very far away without making sure everything is still ok...

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