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Ever since we found out yesterday. I feel deep down I blame myself for the pain I've caused. I feel like I could have done something. Seeing my fiance like I did yesterday,  it makes me not even want to TTC after all this . I feel I have caused him so much pain and he was so excited when he found out he was a daddy , and so was his family and mine as well . I can't believe this all happened in a matter of days . The 16 th found out I was 2-3 weeks pregnant and not even 48 hr later I go back to be told I'm having a miscarriage... Idk i just wish I had someone to talk to... this all came at once and idk how to feel ... numb cause I've already cried so much ? happy that its possible for me to get pregnant? sad, cause I was so happy about finding out I was a mom ? I just don't know any more

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My situation was similar. I found out on Feb 21 that I was pregnant and then Feb 28 I had light bleeding that only lasted the day. The ER told me it was only a threatened miscarriage because my cervix was still closed. Two days later the doctor called and told me my HCG levels dropped a lot and after the phone call the bleeding came back darker and the cramps were horrible. I felt as though it was all my fault and then found out my husband was blaming himself as well. It still hurts when we think about it or talk about it, but neither of us have lost hope either. Everyone grieves different so it could take you a week to get to a better place or it could take months. No matter what don’t blame yourself because it only makes it harder on you to heal. Research I’ve done also says that if you have a miscarriage before about 6 weeks it’s most likely a chromosome issue but I look at it as though God is just making the baby a little more perfect to give to you. Don’t give up. I pray we all get to a better place and receive the happiness we’re waiting for.

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I had almost the same thing happen. I found out I was pregnant and five days later I started bleeding. The hardest part was definitely having to go around and tell everyone I lost it. 
All I can say is it’s not your fault. You are justified to feel what ever you are feeling for what ever reason. Hormones are probably still in your body which doesn’t help. I started sobbing because I spilled my soup one day. 
It gets easier. I think looking at it positively that you can get pregnant is a really good idea.

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I’m right there with you girl. I was about 5 weeks pregnant and just started bleeding. I found out yesterday I was having a miscarriage, but I felt like something was wrong a couple of days before that. 
My fiancé held me while I cried in his shoulder and he just kept saying “Its not your fault. It’s not your fault. We are going to try again next month.” 
This was the first time I have ever even gotten a positive pregnancy test after trying for months. I was devastated.  
I felt even worse for him, because I know he was so excited to be a daddy. 
But just remember.. there’s always next month. And the month after that, and so on. When you are done grieving, and if you want to try again.. having a miscarriage doesn’t increase your chances of another one. Unfortunately these things happen all the time and there’s almost always nothing that can prevent it. 
I’m so sorry you went through that. Please reach out if you need anything at all

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