Marriage woahs

Today is my 9 year anniversary of marriage with my husband. We are also currently 33 weeks pregnant with a baby girl which we never really saw coming. To be more exact, we we're both shocked because we really haven't had sex that often in the last year. We are raising an Amazingly God filled 7 yr old dude who just blows my mind everyday.

I'm trying to remain thankful for everything that God has blessed us with. Even each other.

My heart just feels a different way though. He doesn't sleep in the bed with me anymore. He keep pretty late hours from work, and when he comes home he eats, and crashes on the couch trying to unwind ( so he falls asleep with his plate in his hand, leaving messes all over the living room). Even if I ask him to come to bed he never makes it to the bed. We don't really have sex. Heck I'm almost 8 mths pregnant and have yet to receive a foot massage, a massage, or anything. As a matter of fact today I heard him on the phone with his friend saying he was going to meet up with the guys to play ball at the gym later tonight. ( I didn't even bother to mention to him that it was our anniversary). He has expressed that in a nut shell I nag too much. I could actually see from his point how he would feel that way. However even when I just ask him something as simple as when he wakes up at 2 am and goes on a food binge to simply clean up behind himself. I wake up everyday to the kitchen, and wherever he slept looking like Taz ran through it. No matter how much effort I previously put into cleaning before i go to sleep. I really starting to fall out of love with him, and it's been 2 yrs of fighting.

He won't do counseling. I know he feels disrespected ( I don't respect him as an honorable man anymore). I also don't feel valued as a wife, person,woman, or mother. He has made some questionable choices in the past 2 yrs that have caused some set backs to our household that could have easily been avoided with adult reasoning. Petty things that I would have expected out of him in our early 20's and would have never expected to be dealing with in our 30's. I also have been layed off for the last year ( only time in our marriage that I haven't worked). Although I still have a couple of hustles that take care of some of the smaller bills. Our end game was for me to stop working a 9-5 anyway hence why I started 2 small businesses while I was working. ( They don't bring in stable money but my point is I'm far from lazy, or even incapable). He works a 9-5 and operates a small business of his own as well ( he's a work a holic, and is there for EvERyBoDy, I just feel as though I'm fighting for his attention). I've expressed this, for the last 2 yrs. He has made it known he doesn't care. To some it may seem petty to get divorced from a good man. To me, if I am telling you, that I'm feeling taken for granted, and you say yeah you are, but I don't care right now. What are my other choices, besides leaving. Im not a weak person, but I also know how to be humble. However I won't beg for someone's love or affection. I believe if you love someone it will naturally show.

+++(((update)))+++

Not much has changed other than my Outlook. There has been a slight increase in questioning about my well being as we are nearing the end of this pregnancy. Stepping back and analyzing my situation without emotional attachment ( because unfortunately there is very little at this point) has allowed me to make so observations.

A. I have been very independent, and strong throughout our entire marriage. Even when faced with tragedy. He may not be used to me needing him.

i. I fell in love with him because of how caring, and supportive he was. Even though it didn't appear that I needed it it was always a breath of fresh air to have, and it was one of my favorite thing about his character

ii. Because I have never had to cash in the care and support in the way/s he thought I should have ( or at all) maybe he feel taken for granted/ or not needed/ that the support wasn't needed anymore

By no means am I making excuses for any unsavory behavior. ( not in my character). I just am not a person that jumps to any conclusions. I have never seen any proof of infedelity, nor do I feel in my heart that this is our issue. ( but have not ruled it out as a possibility). Honestly I would rather get to the root of the issues and work on them. I'm falling out of love and don't want to. I think we can save it, but I don't know how to. I believe in God's ability to change things esp. through prayer but I'm too angry @ him ( husband) for not loving me the way God has called him to, to pray. But can't really point a finger because if I loved him enough like I think I do, I would be selfless enough to lift him in prayer. I really feel like a little coocoo bird