Performance anxiety?

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We’ve never had this problem...but now that we’ve started trying my husband is majorly freaking out. This is the third month we’re trying and it’s progressively gotten worse...I know it’s the pressure but it’s really getting to me too. Any advice?!

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My husband also experiences this same issue. I try to not hint when I’m ovulating and consistently try to have sex 3 days a week so he doesn’t figure out as easily when our window week is. We also try to be more spontaneous, use lingerie, and toss in a cocktail or two to relax him. It’s definitely discouraging and frustrating and in the beginning caused a lot of frustration and anxiety for me. I find since we have switched up the routine, I’ve tried to not be overly ocd about tracking, and just not focusing only on conceiving it’s def improved our situation. Good luck!!!!

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Surprise him with lingerie and don’t talk about the ttc part

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Just enjoy sex with your hubby, don’t time it or talk about TTC...it causes so much stress on you both. I am starting a new cycle today and we are just going to do it every couple of days and hope for the best. Baby dust to you!!!

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don't tell him it bothers you. don't tell him youre ovulating. try and make it obvious that you actually want to just 'dance' for the sake of dancing.  if you're not into It, fake it.  Some guys are quite sensitive to pressure.  performance anxiety is a delicate situation and if you let on that you are frustrated by the problem it will just make it that much worse.  guys truly have no control over that physiological response.  It's 100% all mental in a healthy male with this issue.   of course if there's underlying health problems than that's an issue that needs to be addressed.

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I stopped telling my husband when I’m ovulating and try to have sex 3-4 times a week except for when I’m on my period. It’s helped him, although it still kinda gets to me since I still know!! 😆

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Don’t tell him when you are ovulating or about ttc. My husband has major performance anxiety as well. Also maybe try to schedule a staycation or weekend getaway one month when you are ovulating. How could help relax him.

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