UPDATE #13:

She (BM) called me today! (I never in a million years thought I would be excited to say that) She asked if I could give her a ride on Tuesday to and from her therapy appointment so she can talk to her therapist about everything and to tell her that it IS her final decision. After their session her therapist will be reporting back to her DCF worker to tell her that she is of sound enough mind to make the decision herself and that it is the right choice for her and the baby! Then from there the therapist and DCF worker will decide the best way to tell this to the GM and then from there we’ll be working on the steps to the actual adoption!

UPDATE #14:

Therapy went great! As soon as BM walked out of the doctors office you could just tell she was feeling much better! She said she is feeling like she is mentally in a much better place with the situation and is even more sure, like 100% sure, that this IS the right decision for the baby and everyone else involved. She even admitted that my husband and I can give him a life that she would never be able to, even just a NORMAL life that she would not be able to provide. She also brought up that she would not want it any other way and that the situation is perfect because she can give us the baby that we’ve been praying for! She feels much better about having to deal with GM also after speaking with her therapist who reassured her that everything would work out even if it’s a mess in the beginning and that GM would eventually come to terms with the situation either way. So she said she’ll be calling her lawyer TOMORROW to get the ball rolling and to get everything done as soon as possible (and as easily as possible)!!

UPDATE#15:

I now despise Easter... due to the holiday her lawyer took a vacation and won’t be back until April 2nd, I’ll keep everyone updated in the meantime if anything pops up tho!

UPDATE #16:

BM called today asking if we could talk about the phone call she’s supposed to make to her lawyer on Monday... me being the anxiety driven person I am instantly thought she was calling to say she had cold feet and was changing her mind, but NOPE, she was actually calling to tell us that she is going to tell her lawyer that she wants to transfer guardianship from GM to us in the meantime while we work on the adoption process so the baby can be with us even sooner! And also to see if there was anything we wanted her to tell her lawyer on Monday. So we’ll be getting our little bundle of joy even sooner than we were planning!! Also HAPPY EASTER EVERYONE!!

UPDATE #17:

BM called her lawyer yesterday, just waiting to hear back from him! The wait is killing meeeee!

UPDATE #18:

Sorry it has been so long ladies, but I am also STILL waiting for an update! She keeps saying she’s still waiting to hear back from her lawyer and that she’s called him multiple times, which okay I expected him to take a couple days to get back to her since he was on vacation, but THIS long, really? Am I being impatient or should I start questioning her on whether she actually called or not??

UPDATE #19:

BM stopped over today to talk real quick, she said that she would like to hangout with me on Monday so she could call her lawyer from my phone with me right there on speakerphone so we could all discuss it together. She also said that her lawyer did call back during the week while she wasn’t home, but no one told her that he had left a message until this morning! Also while she was over she told me that GM was over at her house today and made quite a rude remark about me in front of all her family that was there; she put the baby down in his bouncy chair and he started crying and said in front of everyone “Sorry, but I’m not going to hold you like Ellie does all day, you need to learn how to self sooth” and then went on to explain that apparently I never put him down and that I’m going to only make things worse for him by doing that (withdrawal recovery) which is crap because he spends plenty of time on his tummy, in his swing, and in his bouncer and chair while he’s with me all week while I do also hold him and love him too (especially this week since he came down with bronchitis and needed extra loves because GM didn’t bring him to the doctors when I told her she should when he first started getting a cold since I obviously can’t do it myself yet, but that a whole other story). It’s so frustrating that I care for him the best I can and love him so much and all she can do is criticize me behind my back, BM was livid also, but didn’t do anything besides stand there quiet because she said that she’ll get what she deserves when we talk to the lawyer on Monday because honestly we’ve (BM, myself, and my husband) been noticing that she does not take care of him well at all and that’s even coming from BM who lost my two stepsons for abuse and neglect so that’s really saying something and she’s been using the baby as a means to spite BM and it’s honestly terrible what she’s starting to do.

UPDATE #20:

LADIES I NEED YOUR HELP! BM and I are calling the lawyer today (we weren’t able to do it yesterday) and we want to make a list of things we want to ask the lawyer before we even call him so we don’t forget ANYTHING! Are there any questions that you ladies think I should ask him???

UPDATE #21:

WE START FILLING OUT PAPERWORK TOMORROW! She was finally able to get ahold of her lawyer on Friday and he wants us to pick up the paperwork from the courthouse on Monday, fill it out, and send it to him so he can go over it first to make sure it’s correct and then he’ll file it for us! He agrees with us that first we should transfer guardianship first then work on the actual adoption so that way we can get him home with us even sooner! The only problem is there’s no father in the birth certificate so we have to do an absentee father post in the local paper and he has X amount of days to respond, but he’s a low life who hasn’t even seen the baby once since he was born and also has some serious drug addictions himself and I doubt he would argue with her giving him to us so fingers crossed for that part! I am just so excited that this is finally seeming real! GM somehow found out on her own tho, no ones sure how because none of the 5 people that know (myself, my husband, BM, and her two adult siblings) have said anything to her, and she of course instantly posted an immature post on Facebook and told her son (one of the sibling that knew) that she wants to keep the baby and that she’s pissed at BM and blah blah blah which is not right for her to say at all because she is FOSTERING him and the goal of fostering is to reunify parent and child and if that’s not possible then to reunify siblings so she’s wrong for thinking she was going to keep him forever either way because she was fully aware of these facts. Plus I already have him 5+ days a week from 6am to 4:30pm (sometimes even longer) and all she ever does is whine and complain about having him so it seems kind of ridiculous that she even wants to keep him. So this should be interesting on Monday when she drops him off at 6am.

UPDATE #22:

This morning I called her dads house to tell her I would be there in an hour to pick her up to go fill out the paperwork, but her brother answered and said she had left last night with her other brother to stay at his house until Wednesday! I am so annoyed right now! She didn’t even let me know she wouldn’t be there so luckily I called first before packing up all the kids

UPDATE #23:

We picked up the paperwork yesterday!! We’ve filled out all the paperwork we can, there’s a few holes where we’re not sure how to answer, but other than that we’re almost done! We just need a copy of his birth certificate and his SSN and we’ll be ready to submit the paperwork!❤️ BM and I are also going to sit down with GM tomorrow and explain to her why we want to do this because as of right now she’s walking around all big and braggy saying that she’s keeping him (which was never really an option to begin with) so hopefully once she hears our side she’ll stop making a stink about it 🙄

UPDATE #24:

So yesterday went terribly! BM and I were finally able to meet with GM to talk and she was absolutely terrible! As soon as BM opened her mouth and said “We wanted to talk to you because I want Ellie and [my husband’s name] to adopt [baby’s name] so he can live in a traditional home with his brothers” and before she could even finish what she was saying GM just goes “NO” and WOULD NOT even listen to reason no matter what BM said all GM would say is no, it got to the point where she made BM start balling her eyes out and started taking shot at me saying “they can’t even pay their bills, they can’t deal with another child, they can’t ETC” which were all completely FALSE which BM knows and called her out on it, but it didn’t matter! She stormed out grabbing the baby without saying anything to my stepsons before taking him away from them and just left! Then I was also supposed to have the baby for the day today and he was supposed to be dropped off at 6am and she never showed up! I finally texted her at 6:40 and and she made up a BS excuse for why she didn’t drop him off or notify me! I’m livid! She’s going to tear these boys apart!💔

UPDATE #25:

My husband’s ex’s baby?! Part 3 is now posted!