I few years ago I was invited to a get together at a guy who I thought I knew’s house. He told me all of our friends were going to be there. I show up and there’s no one, his excuse, his roommate and him got into an argument so they pulled the plug on the meet up. That’s when the first red flag went up. Giving him the benefit of the doubt, I stayed to watch a movie, that’s when things went south.

I will spare the details but after the incident, I didn’t know who to call or what to do. There was no penetration so I wasn’t sure if I could call it an assault. So naive younger me just told my then roommate and the guy I was seeing in another state.

A few years down the road I’d see him around the city and he started to date an old close friend of mine. I wanted to tell her or I was praying that someone else would step forward and put him on blast.

Nothing.

It wasn’t until my current boyfriend heard that the same guy assaulted other girls and told me about it. That’s when I finally opened up to him about he assault that took place. Furious he stepped up to the guy and called him out. After that incident the guy was caught by his best friend taking advantage of a young girl at a party. He’s now banned from a lot of the bars and venues here in town.

But now, I’m positive that he’s coming to my apartment at night and vandalizing our vehicles. My boyfriends window was shattered so we took it to a shop for a couple of days to get replaced. The night we got it back, someone came and started writing profanities on it along with my vehicle.

I’m very worried that this may get more violent and next time I’ll be alone when some is trying to vandalize the vehicles. I’ve filed numerous police reports of the incidents but I don’t know how to protect myself further.

This is why it was so hard to come out, this is what I was afraid of.