So I’m having an issuing in getting turned on... me and my SO have always had an exciting and healthy love life. But idk the last few times I just haven’t been into it... I think it’s because he keeps bugging me about anal. We tried it once and I didn’t like it, it hurt really bad. I literally couldn’t poop for like 2 days. And when we are trying to get freaky he brings up anal or he sticks his finger in my butt. Then he gets upset when I tell him no.... I think that that’s my issue. I feel like he doesn’t respect my choice about what I want to do and that turns me off.

Then afterwards he brought up my ex, he said “oh I see what it is, your ex let you put something in his butt so you let him put something in yours” my ex and I tried it once and it didn’t work out either.

What should I do? What should I tell him? How do I get him over this? He really liked anal and I can’t do it. It hurts to bad. (Even after we did it for awhile.) I couldn’t get into it. It made my butt bleed... and he doesn’t understand. Like he’s really big (the biggest I’ve ever had) and I can’t do that....