engaged at 17?

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my boyfriend of only 4 months proposed to me and although 4 months seems like such a short time we’ve been through so much together. 
in the beginning of our relationship i got locked up over some really ridiculous charges and he stuck by my side the whole time and even showed up when my own family didn’t. 
my mom is a major hater of my relationship and constantly talks down to my boyfriend, despite him buying us food constantly, taking me to any major appointments i have, and buying my mom pampers and bottles for her newborn. my mom says she hates him because she’s losing me to him but i just feel that’s so selfish. 
his family has been so kind and welcoming his mom even offered for me to move in. me and him have been talking a lot about TTC but because of my past traumas it’s made that damn near impossible, we aren’t exactly there financially but we always make things work. 
he’s been nothing but kind to me and we communicate perfectly. last night we went on a special date to go see ponyo in theaters (i’m such a fan of ponyo i cried just at the thought of seeing it on a big screen and he knew how important it was to me) so mid movie he gets on one knee and proposed and it took me by surprise in so many ways
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since it’s happened i’ve been so happy, i love him to death and there’s no doubt in my mind this will last. he’s my person. 
only issue is, no one f*cking knows, not his family or mine. i told a few friends on social media but they all think i’m crazy. so girls... am i?? is it too soon? 
i trust that he’s faithful and he’s been my rock from the beginning, though the relationship is new he’s been in my life for 8+ months now and we’ve clicked ever since. i don’t regret it and i love the idea of getting married but my mom hates him and my dad would think i was crazy wtf do i do

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Accepted Answer

I do think you’re very young to be getting married and thinking about kids already, but I’d recommend a long engagement. If you’re both committed to each other wait a couple years and take some time to plan your wedding and be more financially stable before moving on to building a family. Good luck to you both those things!

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Your mom sounds like a whack job.
Be engaged if you want. But wait until you're ready to get married.

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Getting engaged doesn’t mean getting married a hear or less later and people always seem to forget that. There’s nothing wrong with it. It just means you’re committed to him until you decide to get married. Engagement is a big deal but doing it happens and theres nothing wrong with. My sister got engaged at 17 while in high school. They’ve been married 1 year now (together 5 years total) and have a beautiful 2 year old son. Congratulations to you and best of luck!

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I met my husband when I was 17. He told me he was gonna marry me like after 2 weeks of “dating” lol. We didn’t get married until about a year and a half later but I don’t regret it for one moment! If you think marriage is what you’re ready for then take that step. 
As far as tryna have a baby though...wait till you have your OWN place. Don’t have a baby while living in someone else’s house. That’s disrespectful & you’d be taking advantage of their kindness. You have a lot of time to start a family. You haven’t been together for very long enjoy being in each other’s company without a crying baby.

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I’m 19. My partner and I have been engaged for one year, dating almost two years, best friends for almost five but we’ve been in each other’s lives for almost ten. We shared our first kisses together!! There was a few years we didn’t have contact due to circumstances but when we meet again in high school we instantly clicked again. He became my best friend, he helped me through one of my biggest life lesson relationships and even though it killed him to see me with someone who treated me like shit he would always be there! I’d call him at ridiculous hours of the night/early morning, he’d answer and talk to me even if it was because I was drunk and crying over my ex. Our friendship faded once I left school, we’d message once a week maybe, but then one day out of no where he asked me to the movies and basically the rest is history. We’ve had quite a few bumps in the road, a lot has happened in the last 18 months and we both come from troubled backgrounds, so we both have issues we haven’t felt with and emotions we don’t know how to deal with properly. Without each other we know we’d be lost, it drives us crazy when we aren’t together. We proposed to me, I said yes and things got a little bumpy after I miscarriaged and it took a big toll on both of us. We took a bit of time apart and sat down to the agreement and we would have a long engagement so we could really be sure that this is going to last forever. No matter what we know we will always remain in each other’s hearts and always remain best friends. He’s the love of my life and I’m his soul mate.
Engagements can be for years, things don’t have to be rushed. Give your parents time, mine flipped when they found out but my mum came around eventually before she passed away she told me that she was so happy I’ve found someone who really makes me smile.
💛💛💛
So from my experience take things slow xx

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I got engaged at 17 & we’ve been engaged for over a year now. We’re definitely waiting on marriage. & as for kids, please do wait. It could potentially put a lot of stress on your relationship. But it would also be better for you two whenever y’all have your place & financially stable.

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If he makes you happy Honey Go for it. Your mama Should be proud!

engaged at 17?

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