Is he just a friend...or more???

Ok...so here goes. I’m 27. I’ve known this guy for about a year. We go to church together, so that’s mostly when we see each other. After church in the summer and now every Sunday we go out to eat together after - with my brother and his wife too, so there’s always 4 of us. In June he helped me move into my apartment. In February we went to Starbucks and he helped me work on my resume (I initiated). We have been out to eat after church twice in the last month just the two of us because my bro/SIL were gone.

Since we see each other weekly, there’s 2 sides to that. One is that we have had lots of great conversations and we’ve gotten to know each other really well. I used to think oh maybe he’s just a nice guy (and really likes to hang with my bro but I’m just along for the ride), but now we have good deep conversations and trust each other with info and important stuff. The other side to that is that it is very predictable for him to see me every week at church, so it’s usually “bye see you next week” because that’s easy. So if it is progressing as a relationship, he’s not really having to work at it.

He’s a terrible texter!! He will answer when I text but he is never ever on his phone so I’m not sure what it would take for him to initiate texting anyone hah, but he did text me Happy New Year at midnight this year which I thought sweet and unexpected.

I don’t think he has much experience with girls. He’s 5 years older than me, but I can just tell he talks condescendingly about himself and that he’s awkward and strange, and that he’s boring etc. (to me he’s not!!)

This is my question. Am I misjudging a friendship, or is this just the world’s slowest progressing relationship EVER?! I’ve had friends tell me “if he hasn’t done anything yet he’s not interested.” As I agree that could be true, I find we’re honestly getting to know each another in a predictable timetable (Sundays after church), so it’s progressing slooooowly. Not that it needs to be a relationship after knowing each other only a year, but basically I need to know for my own sanity and if I’m investing myself (the time I think about him, etc...) into something that is just a friendship.

Mostly my question is this:

1. Let it go, he’s just a friend.

2. See what happens, be patient and let it be natural.

3. Ask him what’s up! *if you think I should talk to him, what should I say? I’m very not confident in this which is why I haven’t said anything yet (it’s not in my personality), but genuinely am feeling like I need to know so I can know what’s happening.

Thank you for listening I am excited to hear your responses either way - if you think he’s only a friend or if you think there’s more!

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